To acknowledge/ not acknowledge , or say thanks for a gift received

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Re: To acknowledge/ not acknowledge , or say thanks for a gift received

@ninjamummy

Majority of gifts have been placed on a specific table set up for gifts or a money box.

And yes, sometimes a gift has been placed in the recipients hand who almost always puts it aside with a hurried “thank you”
As mentioned above, there have been times when someone says " oh , you shouldn’t have" . So after reading some of the above replies, this equates to "thanks’? I didn’t see it that way.
THank you for pointing out that it is a form of thanks.

I was taught to call , respond later on following an event etc with a thanks for the gift etc,

A very close friend purchased her dream home. Myself and a number of friends pooled resources and purchased her her dream dinner set, a “British” set well known for its floral patterns. As friends we were super excited and put a great deal of thought into the gift. It has been several months and she has not acknowledged receiving / nor mentioned the dinner set. On the day, we placed the boxes on the “gift table”. I don’t expect someone to gush their thanks, but an acknowledgement?

Yep, among auntis I have heard various Urdu/Punjabi phrases that equate a “thank you” …lol.

In the situation you mentioned, it’s odd that she didn’t say anything at all. A gift that she had wanted for a long time and that was purchased by not one person, but a group of people…does stand out.

Has she thanked anyone at all from your group? Perhaps she has been crazy-busy in setting up her new home among other things. Consider her past behavior. If she has responded with silence many times in the past when she has received a gift…then her recent behavior is nothing unusual. However, if she usually has thanked you and others in the past…then this is isn’t typical of her and maybe she’s just been insanely busy or stressed.

If she’s a close friend…why not give her a call to see what she’s up to…and in a light and friendly way (without a grudge) …ask her..“So how are you enjoying your dream dinner set that we got you?” And then give her the chance to respond. And then…very lightly…say, “I’m so relieved you like it. We all pitched in and were so excited to get it for you, but we hadn’t heard from you…so we were a bit worried.” It all depends on your tone. And if she’s smart…and especially if she has always said “thank you” in the past…she’ll realize her mistake.

In my opinion it’s better to do the above than to nurse a grudge toward her. You have a couple of choices; either you move on from this without saying a word and without letting it bother you…or you can casually bring it up with her and get it out of you.