To acknowledge/ not acknowledge , or say thanks for a gift received

[Bobby1]

Re: To acknowledge/ not acknowledge , or say thanks for a gift received

@LP

My take on this is different. I’d rather not get flowers on a date and get them on one of the days I’m feeling blue and he thinks it will cheer me up. I’d rather not be gifted at a housewarming or even my marriage. In fact I’ve told my mother that when I am to get married, we will clearly tell people that no form of gifts will be accepted, monetary or otherwise. I do not want people to feel obligated to gift me.

When I see something which reminds me of someone close, or I’d heard them speak of it and it is within my means, I buy it and give it to that person. No occasion needed. That is what gifts were supposed to be, not an exchange. Not an obligation or a competition. People took the fun out of receiving gifts. Or giving gifts.

The reason this society works well is because of unspoken social rules, these rules create expectations of behavior. If everyone lived by their own rules than this society will turn into a chaos. Here are some unspoken social rules. People who don’t want gifts ask that anyone wanting to give should give to their favorite charity. You could do that at your wedding.

https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-top-unspoken-social-rules