doesnt work with desi moms. with desi moms you have to show her exactly how you feel when she says something.
so if she said something once in a while, and you remember it, and then you repeat what she said, and then say something like “it’s easy to forget what you said but not easy to forget what someone else said. now do you feel how i feel?” is the only way she will see the other side. this whole gora mumbo jumbo “you make me feel bad. we have to resolve our issues” yeah…tried it. didn’t work.