Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
But one can finds tht pure love ....in this materlistic world...where everyone has alot of demands. there r alot of opportunities par ..still everyone wanaaa shortcut...thn when Life sucks u ...thn oen also hav to do soemthing in return.i believe tht one can do anything in order to fulfill his aims and objectives of life ... specially now a days ...ppl really don t care abt others ..thts the saddest part of Life.And soem who does care abt ....most of the tiems....tht one mean tooo.
now life is not more than give and take....give soemthign to hav soemthing...
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
Anyone can go from being dependent to being self-supporting.
All you have to do is get educated and then get a job. Financial independence is the first step to taking control of your life.
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
According to Sharia:
- Disciplining of rebellious wives is a husband's DUTY.
- Physical discipline should be a last resort after other incremental punishments have failed.
- Physical discipline should be in the form of "Not Hard Beatings" so that no marks are left on the woman.
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
I am so petrified to move forward with my relationship- even though he is a nice guy and all that but a MAN. I know I am assuming the negative things before hand when I don’t even know if I would ever face them. I can’t sit there like this girl who had patience to take that pain over and over again. I know I will finish it up on the first situation I do jump to the end very easily. Yeah I know many of you will suggest then I should not consider getting married. In my life I have seen so many women taking the pain of hatred from their men and yet they had almost 10 kids with them. How can you have sex with someone and not have any feelings? Shouldn’t that be consider haram? The only difference between of sex between a hooker and wife is with wife you have feelings and religious bonding. I know I will get bash again by one of our fellow guppies but think about it.
Emotions aside- He raises his hand I will make sure I hit him with something else that will leave a mark for a good period because I know his will.
Well said Nia....it is hard to believe but there are many people out there who just have sex without any passion or even a slight consideration of love. It is certainly haram when someone uses their wife like a hooker or vise versa to have kids for no reason whatever. Maybe everyone is just so wrapped up by these laws of the world and fearful about being alone that nobody cares what they are doing might be just wrong.
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
Islam doesn’t say to take abuse does it?
And in my world. If he even think of doing that - i will give abuse. Its about time we change that cultural trend of women getting beat up by their husbands.
Jal-pari it takes real guts to stand up for what you believe in. Its tough to face a crowd of 100 people who think you are wrong and bash you but you still go NO i am right!
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
twin born good stuff
where did u get it ?
it didnt seemed to be at all that u hav written it by urself
ther are stil som qs ....in my mind that.... didnt clear in the story
that must be clear.If u hav som ref then let me know that if u dont mind to share the reference .............
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
Islam never tells you to take abuse. And that means abuse of any kind.
You should start questioning the integrity of your relationship not at the stage when hands are being raised. The question of what’s wrong should be addressed well in advance. (for example when the name calling begins, you should deal with it.)
Doing something in a tit for tat manner is never justified. Even Islam protects and supports that one that is forgiving. And if you feel that you can’t forgive then Islam will be on the side of the person that walks away from a fight…not the one that retaliates.
It’s not only a matter of who is right or wrong, it can also get down to “how” right or wrong you are.
It does take guts to stand up for what you believe. Good for you!
It takes even more guts to admit when you may be wrong…
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
Men are cowards for hitting women...the only reason they do it is because they know they can get away with it...1st of all wome are weak physically so there is no fear of reprisal, 2nd some of them know we are trapped by society either through kids or no career, so there is no fear of leaving them...and last but not least many men think its acceptable in our society to hit women, infact just 20 or 30 yrs ago even the police didnt intervene in domestic voilence
because it was considered a matter between husband and wife.
Re: The first time he hit me, I refused to believe it
I've gone through this situation with my husband.
What i did i left him i really want to divorce him coz he also
hit me and use very bad languange towards me.
I coulnt bare it anymore so i left him for a while.
Now is everything fine now.
I think ur sis have to do same thing coz how long will she
hear that she is a whore slut ect..ect.. but the most is
how long will she bear that her husband beats her.
Did she talk to her parents about this? Does they know about this situation?
She really has to talk with some1 about this or she will go fall apart
through this situation.
Nilu.
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Muzna i was born to act like a human not like an angel. I have my negative sides and i dont need to please everyone on face of this earth :~).
When i am at fault and i realize it i will make sure i have appologized to that person and it will always be with sincerity.
Muzna Sadly there is so much abuse in the Islamic world which i am sure i dont need to explain. I know there is even more abuse in Non islamic world but the point is. Women were being burned but when Islam came that stopped and they got their respect. Sadly people may not burn us physcially anymore but they know how to burn our souls.
When your soul dies its the worst thing that can happen to someone!