When given two options...pick both.
Why not?
Re: The Backseat
If given an opportunity to further your career - which may be an uphill battle and require time and effort, vs. getting married and continuuing on with your current job line - where you're making enough for what you need , but maybe your job satisfaction isn't high....
Which way would you chose?
Keep climbing the corporate ladder which may involve moving around, travels, all of which your fiance can't manage? Or get married, and stop being ambitious for a while, so you can be with your husband and make a family?
Well i am a guy and in same boat as yours. I am not satisfied with my job at all but i am making good money. I have decided to get married first and enjoy a bit of life before changing the career and confronting new challenges. Spent life time studying and working my ass off, so it's time to sit back and relax for a while.