Re: The Backseat
Guys do have to make these sorts of decisions. I was trying to convey that in the work blog, *married *people in general have to make compromises. Take me for example, I plan on doing something else but if I were to stay in this career, I can put in reasonable hours and get to a certain position making 200-300k in my 40’s. Not a bad lifestyle at all. If I want to get there faster, I would have to move around more, to Frankfurt, Shanghai, Singapore, Rio, etc. Would my wife be okay with that? Would I want to move when my kids are high school aged? To go past that position I described, and getting into executive type roles, *definitely *requires a lot of moving, and probably more stress. But it’s prestigious, and pay is anywhere from 500k to a million. But again, career ambition vs family.
Women have to compromise more, but men have to do it too. It’s not like we just do whatever we want, whenever we want, our family’s opinons be damned.
Like RV said, we have to make decisions. If you want to kick ass and go for your career, great. But there are consequences. How do you feel about this guy? If he’s great overall, and you feel good about him, I would choose family. Even as a guy, if I went for my career and ignored my wife’s opinions, she might leave me. I would have to come to terms with that. I’m not married by the way, so I have yet to actually face these decisions, but I think I would compromise for family where needed. Do we work to live or do we live to work? I would much rather be pigging out on aam with my wife, in Pakistan in my 60’s, than admiring the lakeshore view alone from my million dollar condo in Toronto.