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mama is right tho too...if you knew your child was going to suffer, then it would be different...it is definitely different for every circumstane
nes-i was seriously going to change my sig TODAY to say "i've lost my voice of reason"...hmmm...
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i think i heard ur voice then :D
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I was just gonna add that we were told that the information regarding the baby is kept private, especially from the medical insurance companies, at least in the US. It might not be the case else where, so you guys might wanna check into it.
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nes…well i do tend to be quite loud 
things like this make me so sad 
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you are so right, 714. Very sad but facing reality is a tough thing sometimes. My hubby lost his dad at age 7 to a car accident. In same accident, his mom broke her neck and remained a quadroplegic for the next 25 years, couldnt speak or do anything other than watch her children grow - without being able to have a say in anything they did. He was so very lucky to have a grandfather that took in all 3 children and the daughter and cared for them all to the very best of his ability. It took a great man with a great wife to do all of this. I have no one in my family that could or would take on all of my babies and care for them the way that I'd want. You need to think of these things. When age aint on your side, its a much bigger consideration. Could I abort? I dont think so. But never was I faced with a major problem either.
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Mamaof3, that is where the million dollar question comes in. Do you or do you not have the right to make a decision on your child's behalf? Maybe he/she will grow up to consider that he/she is able to take care of him/herself on his/her own or maybe someone else will come forward when time comes along but maybe not.
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mehnaz,i dont have kids yet but i am guessing it must be one of the biggest test of patience from Allah to see ur kids disabled or not able to function properly for whatever reason. wudnt u rather abort in case u find out through that test that u r unborn child may not be normal than to go through such pain n constant test of ur parenthood for life?
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Yes Ahmadjee, thats SUCH a tough question. All we can do is make the best choice for ourselves and our situations. And not judge others who do the same - but make choices that we THINK are wrong! These things are just too personal, to each couple, to their lives, to their families...no one should interfere with decisions about this, it needs to come from yourself, from your heart, without interference and without worrying about the jugdement of others.
I mean, would I have a child if told that the child was severely handicapped? I'd absolutely want the child. But IF I were to die, then who takes care of this child? I'd not be able to provide in that case so what then??? Do I have the right to do this to a child? And to whomever this child would go to??? Is it better to abort this child in early pregnancy when the child has no concept of life and death? I thank the Good Lord that I never needed to answer these questions in a serious manner. And I SO respect and bless those who addressed these questions and decided to go ahead anyway. But my heart also bleeds for those who have had to make the ultimate choice for their unborn. It is NOT up to us to judge that choice.
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Right now, I would say no. That’s just my personal opinion though. I could never get rid of a baby cause it would turn out disabled. Again, maybe if I’m ever in this situation I would change my mind. Right now though, it’s not something I can fathom.
Mama, nobody is judging those who decide to abort. It’s a very personal and private thing parents have to go through and I doubt coming to that decision is any easier than deciding to keep the baby. It’s difficult either way you look at it.
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khair regardless i hope no one has to go through such thing ever. i know of a family who has a mentally disabled daughter, further she is also unable to speak. she has been like that by birth. and as she is growing older n physically hitting puberty, her parents are so concerned about her. not that they dont have help medically/financially or support system from their family. its just that i see them in pain and in constant struggle with themselves all the time. its just so hard for them to see their own flesh n blood in such state. it must be a terrible feeling as a parent to be not able to help your kids when they are like that.
Allah reham karay.