Re: Teaching kids the native language..
You are right, here we have the same problem, my husband born and bred in pakistan wants our daughter to learn urdu first, but she started nursary at age one and half and now she speaks german more, my husband corrects her but its hard to make her to communicate in urdu, though she understands but he is very persisent sometimes he refuses to understand what she is saying until she says it in Urdu. My niece and nephew dont speak much urdu, there father was raised here and they all talk german at home, and when they speak its very funny urdu, like she who is almost says tum instead of app to elders, thats why i talk to my daughter as app sometimes so that she learns the polite urdu first.