Im totally unable to understand that what offensive kind of thing have I said due to which everyone has to pin point. Ok you people know more ADAAB and FORMALITIES of chai, may be i dont.
Moreover Alhumdulillah I am happy with whatever menu I serve either in chai or any other event. I said in start somewhere that we can agree to disagree and yes family tradition matters. You know in our Pakistan is there any concept to serve cake as sweet dish nahin na. Here in many malay, indo families they serve cake as sweet dish jiska khaaney kay baad dil bhi nahin chahta, ab kya insaan unko yeh seekhnaye lagey that its not right to serve cake. So jiski jo marzi ho woh kerta hai. I dont think so is cheez kay liyey koi Saza kabhi muqarrar huwee hai. Moreover bhayee mujh sey to tea kee dawat kay baad khana nahin khaya jaata. As I said before that usually tea is served when guests tell you 1-2 hours before coming otherwise we dont have tradition of chai. One of my cousin did tea party of birtday of his daughter and u know when it started 8:30. And there was pizza, noodles, sandwitches and 2 more things. SO after such experience we avoid doing chai in our family as no one comes on time.
But yes if we tell someone we will come to have a cup of tea then obviously we dont expect dinner from them but its only that we dont have tradition of chai parties but agar main kisi ko bulaoon to main to Haleem menu main rakhoon gee