tea party...

[AFayiz]

Re: tea party…

@redvelvet

I think that if the host doesn’t call it “high” tea, then most people take the a tea or chai invitation to mean light snacks that just take a few minutes to prepare and not grueling labor and this point is valid. I think that even in Our culture when you invite someone for chai they tend to think they’ll be served light refreshments and if the guest ends up staying close to dinner time, the host offers “khaana” that will be viewed by the guest as part of dinner and not chai k appetizers. In other words, I believe that both the guest and the host make a mental distinction if not a verbal one. So, both opposing arguments…apni apni jagah pe…make sense. :halo:

Now is it just me who has to have roti with haleem? The idea of eating it nom nom nom with just a spoon as though it were cereal makes me feel sick. Won’t say why…it’s just that a certain image seems more pronounced with using only a spoon and not roti. I’ll just leave it at that.

In my famiy there is not much tradition of giving someone invitation over chai if guests come more than welcome and they are served with the refreshment. Even you know one of my tayee keeps haleem frozen so if some guests would come at chai she can present instantly. Similarly when my nand had to get married and people used to come over our house my MIL used to serve Haleem at chai but for rishta process thats a different thing. I have got invitation twice or thrice for tea and everytime it was a very high tea. Moreover people even came around 7:30 for tea which is actually a dinner time. We living abroad have concept of eating dinner early but in Pakistan even 7 is sometimes tea. So may be thats why we dont have that much formal tea invites. Here I have not been to tea anywhere yet. Moreover I move more in multiculural circle and I have got idea that Tea time is more with us Pakistanis and to some extent with Indians. Malay, indos, Bangladeshis have lesser of this concept