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Uff I can't believe this.....what possessed the woman....kaise na murad the inn ke husbands...i'm still shocked that 1 endured it for 13years...did she have no contact with her family back home????
it is disgusting.....and we think we've got it hard with our MIL's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Uff I can't believe this.....what possessed the woman....kaise na murad the inn ke husbands...i'm still shocked that 1 endured it for 13years...did she have no contact with her family back home???? it is disgusting.....and we think we've got it hard with our MIL's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Often these 'back home' girls aren't allowed to phone relatives unless MIL is there standing next to them. There are loads of cases like this, makes me sick but at least this MIL got taken to Court, the majority of them get away with it. The sons are spineless little boys, they turn a blind eye to the abuse and justify it by saying 'I never wanted to marry her anyway.' When Mum sees son with a non-Muslim or non-desi girlfriend y not take steps to make these relationships halal instead of pretending nothing is going on and then running back home to find a good obedient wife for son that he doesn't even want and then creating even more mess :(
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Some of these women don't care about anyone but themselves, including their own daugthers.
I have yet to hear or see a MOM/MIL who is evil with both her daughter and DIL, they tend not to be mean to their own daughters...maybe a little strict but not evil.
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What also bothers me is that life is too short for this bull-crap. And to commit such zulm on a person is like stealing **away their **peace of mind, happiness,** health*, **energy, **faith, **confidence, best years of their life*.
The evil saas did MORE THAN just treating her daughters-in-law like slaves......she stole all *these things away from them. One shouldn't even treat an animal like that. Shame on such a woman and may she get a fitting punishment from Allah so that the women receive some justice. And shame on such parents who so naively send their daughters without thorough thinking and investigation. Living *"abroad" does not necessarily equate a "rich and happy life."
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wow.. and two of her sons claim they have 'white' partners and aren't even gonna live with their wives anymore. this is so sad.
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Now here's the confusing part. There are 3 daughters-in-law and only 1 mother-in-law. Three against One.
**Why the hell didn't the three women gang up and jump their evil saas??? **They could have used the same weapons the saas used.
DIL # 1: Could be on the look out
DIL # 2: Blinds Saasoo in the eyes with air refreshener
DIL # 3: Attacks with shoe in one hand and hairbrush in the other.
It's all about team work. Like that song from Sesame Street says:
" Co-operation makes it happen. Co-operation makes it happen."
LOL!
i felt fishy abt this interview but may b could b true.well these girls seem from conservative backgrounds where they r never taught to stand up for themselves.Also may b they wanna keep their hubbys out of trouble but they assist their mom n take her sides at all costs
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^ also they could have been really young... the articles didn't mention their ages. younger girls wuld be a little easier to control.
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So did they manage to contact authorities after so long?
sorry didn't read the 2nd article.
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These stories make me sick. Some people are so wrapped up in this world, that they do not realise this world is temporary. We have to answer for our actions to a higher authority one day.
May Allah protect women and men alike from such situations. Aameen
Disgusting :(
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wow.. and two of her sons claim they have 'white' partners and aren't even gonna live with their wives anymore. this is so sad.
the girls are definitely better off without these idiots as their husbands
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Isn't this normal for many Pakistanis? My inlaws were like that. You complain, then they tell you to look around you. And what do you see? Many other Pakistanis do the same. In Kotli it's normal for daughters in law to stay mostly at home and be treated the way these daughter in laws were treated by that bloody saas. At least, that's what I saw when I was there, some years ago.
Many Pakistanis consider it a normal situation, a good daughter in law obeys, shuts up and almost never leaves the house. That's the way it is. Not just in my family in law, also in some Pakistani families we know. In my case, my parents talked to my inlaws and told them to allow me more, I have to give them credit for that, afterwards, it did help a bit. But my inlaws hated that, you open your mouth and say you don't like that life, then not just your own inlaws, but many other Pakistanis dislike you as well. I admire these daughters in laws who dared opening their mouth while it was happening to them.
We have to open our eyes and look around us. This still happens daily to many daughters in laws, not just in some areas in Pakistan, but also in Europe. I still know a few Pakistani females who are living like that or who had a similar past. And it's all considered normal, kismat, zindagee. "That's the way husbands and inlaws are" is a comment often heard.
Yes, very Pakistani and very unIslamic. Though the daughter in law who dares opening her mouth against injustice is often considered "unIslamic".
I know I will probably get negative reactions now...
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^^^ NO NO and NO it is NOT normal, i m sorry that u think and saw it happening but it is not normal. and as far as i know it is not that common either.
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Isn't this normal for many Pakistanis? My inlaws were like that. You complain, then they tell you to look around you. And what do you see? Many other Pakistanis do the same. In Kotli it's normal for daughters in law to stay mostly at home and be treated the way these daughter in laws were treated by that bloody saas. At least, that's what I saw when I was there, some years ago.
Many Pakistanis consider it a normal situation, a good daughter in law obeys, shuts up and almost never leaves the house. That's the way it is. Not just in my family in law, also in some Pakistani families we know. In my case, my parents talked to my inlaws and told them to allow me more, I have to give them credit for that, afterwards, it did help a bit. But my inlaws hated that, you open your mouth and say you don't like that life, then not just your own inlaws, but many other Pakistanis dislike you as well. I admire these daughters in laws who dared opening their mouth while it was happening to them.
We have to open our eyes and look around us. This still happens daily to many daughters in laws, not just in some areas in Pakistan, but also in Europe. I still know a few Pakistani females who are living like that or who had a similar past. And it's all considered normal, kismat, zindagee. "That's the way husbands and inlaws are" is a comment often heard.
Yes, very Pakistani and very unIslamic. Though the daughter in law who dares opening her mouth against injustice is often considered "unIslamic".
I know I will probably get negative reactions now...
I am sure there are many cases of this but hopefully many of the evil saas will get a bad scare after reading this story.
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How disgusting! Evil people, animals know how to behave better.. urgh :(
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How disgusting! Evil people, animals know how to behave better.. urgh :(
I KNOW! Agreed :)
But I don't think a toxic mother-in-law such as the one in this news article is a human. I don't think she's an animal either. As you said, even animals know better.
Nope.....this crazy woman is in a species and class all by herself. Well....maybe not entirely all by her lonesome. I'm sure there are other toxic monsters-in-law who have a special membership to her club or network of evil. LOL.
Pathetic :(
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And this disease is mostly in Asian people, how sad can we really get ?
When was the last time we heard Non- Desi Saas being a retard? 
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If you research the topic on the Internet…you will come across web sites that are solely about the abuse women have tolerated from their **NON-DESI **mothers-in-law.
So toxic MILS are not only confined to desi society. BUT…the problem with our culture is that women are expected to be obedient and passive as daughters-in-law and wives…and this expectation helps perpetuate the abuse in a way.
^Although Islam does not approve of women being doormats and tolerating abuse…unfortunately many people in our society give top priority to absurd and crippling cultural notions instead of Islam.
***** Another point to keep in mind is that western culture emphasizes individuality more than unity. And in western culture…a guy (even if he is the only son) moves out and away from his parents and** lives separately**. And when he gets married…his wife does not have to live with her in-laws. So a non-desi daughter-in-law usually does not get frequent exposure to toxic mother-in-law…until Thanksgiving or Christmas. 
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******Our culture is different. There is greater emphasis on joint family living. And while some desi women are lucky enough to live away from their deadly MILS…others are not so lucky and have very little choice in the matter. And have to endure joint-family living, which includes MONSTER-IN-LAW!
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what i find wierd is that the mother in law was also their aunty...cos the 3 women wer married to their first cousins...the sons of that woman...thats SICK!!!
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the girls are definitely better off without these idiots as their husbands
Yeah you can say it but you never know what situation they had in her parents home or their parents.
Ppl comes from some abbusive past or some majboories can live in abbusive life due to majboori or something.
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Isn't this normal for many Pakistanis? My inlaws were like that. You complain, then they tell you to look around you. And what do you see? Many other Pakistanis do the same. In Kotli it's normal for daughters in law to stay mostly at home and be treated the way these daughter in laws were treated by that bloody saas. At least, that's what I saw when I was there, some years ago.
Many Pakistanis consider it a normal situation, a good daughter in law obeys, shuts up and almost never leaves the house. That's the way it is. Not just in my family in law, also in some Pakistani families we know. In my case, my parents talked to my inlaws and told them to allow me more, I have to give them credit for that, afterwards, it did help a bit. But my inlaws hated that, you open your mouth and say you don't like that life, then not just your own inlaws, but many other Pakistanis dislike you as well. I admire these daughters in laws who dared opening their mouth while it was happening to them.
We have to open our eyes and look around us. This still happens daily to many daughters in laws, not just in some areas in Pakistan, but also in Europe. I still know a few Pakistani females who are living like that or who had a similar past. And it's all considered normal, kismat, zindagee. "That's the way husbands and inlaws are" is a comment often heard.
Yes, very Pakistani and very unIslamic. Though the daughter in law who dares opening her mouth against injustice is often considered "unIslamic".
I know I will probably get negative reactions now...
I can understand you are telling the truth. It might be happening in PINDS. As jahil ppl espacially jahil from religion do these things. I agree as DDR said they forget that one day they have to give answer to Allah.
I lived in city I didn't see this type of story. I heard that these things happens in PINDS mostly. As our MASI (Nokrani) use to tell their own stories.