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house on fire literally OR b/c of each other’s arguments 
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Thanks Ume! Hugs for such a great topic! 
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this is such a nice thread, ume-zareefah.
thanks for opening it for discussion.
those of us who are unmarried can learn so much, and be comforted in the thought that respect and honesty admonished by the principles of leading marital life, will acquire contentment and joy. may that be the case with everyone who means well and is integral to their own selves as s/he observes delivering the rights of the besought or already made spouses, with unwavering care, mercy and understanding. amen.
dushwari
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Why couldn't you say "Love Allah" instead of "Fear Allah" as your point number 1?
Thanks for giving more conviction to people who think Islam is a freak religion that wins its followers by scaring the crap out of them.
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what is the meaning of the terms that ALLAH:swt: Himself uses throughout in Quran to address us:
Ittaqullah
Khashyatillah
Why did not He use the word like “Ahubb-o-Lillah”
If you can find the reasons behind that then, perhaps you will get your answer.
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There is plenty discussion in the Quran of loving Allah. Yes, there is also mention of a believer's fear in God, but we often forget that we also need to love God.
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Why is there a mention of a believer’s fear in Allah? What do you think, fear means really in Quranic context?
Besides all, point number 1 talks about a “noble practice of the Prophet:saw:”
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You keep coming back to the problem I'm addressing. You keep wanting to focus on fear. I'm not saying we shouldn't FEAR God. I'm saying we need to LOVE AND FEAR God, whereas these days people just focus on the fear aspect. Really, its not that difficult of a concept.
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That is the problem...
Scholars have written books and books explaining fear ALLAH is nothing but Love of Allah. You Love ALLAH and fear that you do not do something that will displease him .. these feelings of fear is because of your LOVE for Allah.
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Right, so if its all intertwined, what the heck stops people from posting "Love Allah" instead of or at least in addition to "Fear Allah". Why state "Fear Allah" to an english speaking audience, without mentioning the love?
Remember, in English, the terms fear and love are very separate entitites, and unless explained and explicitly stated, would not be seen as intertwined themes.
It might make people look upon Islam more as a peace-loving happy not-so stressful religion.
You guys need tact.
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ok... Ume baaji please translate Ittaqullah as Fear Allah (out of His love) from now on. We have to understand people's feeling as well you know.
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really very insightful..thanks for sharing Ume:)