Let’s leave that for the blogs where comments can more easily be deleted! But, honestly, Shak, god bless him and may he one day find a normal wife (if that’s his fancy) tends to provide a more balanced perspective, looking at all sides of an issue as opposed to going in with guns blazing and generalizations galore (which I myself am guilty of).
No not at all! I was just a little eeked out at your self-love.
Abhi abhi mainey tumko dua di hai, don’t make me take it back
all i can say is, your posts often are easily misread… very deja vu to the time you had to go re-edit something about dad shotgun stuffing animals etc etc…
LOL! I can’t believe you remember that! And it wasn’t a matter of misconstruing what I wrote, it was what you chose to read into it. And it was all about taxidermy
1) Don't generalise
2) Stay home women also have negative views about working women so it works both ways. But I wouldn't generalise.
As much as you're pointing out that working women generalise against stay home women, you're doing the same thing by painting them all with the same paint brush.
you're so right, the ones that are stay at home, some times say that why does a mother of 4 need to work and neglect her children.
we women never put ourselves in the other woman's shoes. they might not think that maybe she has to work b/c her husband's a jerk and this is the only way she feels good about herself or feels any kind of happiness.
It's a huge generalization either way. I'm a working women and I could never be a stay at home women simply because it's ten times harder. I have immense respect for women who sacrifice everything and choose to stay home and raise kids/ take care of the house. I don't even know how they do it, such selflessness. Perhaps working women say that about women who have tons of help around the house and in actuality don't do anything except shop etc and are therefore seen as not being productive. But I don't know any working women who feel that way about at home women.
i dont know if m correct, and if anyone else has pointed this out ... but the concept of "educated working women" ... not a typist or secretary ... is relatively new ... considering our culture where it is not easy for women to get a decent education let alone walk out of homes by themselves so easily, one would assume that the initiation of this concept began from "modern" and "open-minded" families ... (excuse these words) ...
so when some working women assume that stay-at-home moms/wives are jaahil, gawaar, unpurh ... it is just a reiteration of the cliche that stems from the societal divide in a not so distant past. and not that stay-at-homes REALLY ARE that.
but considering that even today a majority of women (in pakistan) don't get good enough, or professional enough education ... then stay-at-home-mom/wife is what they become ... typically ... (of course there are exception is every case) ... even some well educated women end up not working.
oh hi if it ain’t ms fruitloop. for your kind information, i was kinda busy hugging myself, when along came a canadian hoping to sneak one in. and now you are here trying to use reverse psychology. sorry, the answer is still no.
Beta jee, aap apna nick change ker waa ke Mardana B Jamalo rukh walo. In fact lose the first part (mardana), just B jamalo is fine. On the second thought, change Mardana to Zanana. Now that will work.
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I have not come across even a handful of women who feel or think this way…you’ve obviously been reading too much into things and are trying to take an extreme approach.
Why do men have such a hard time finding any sort of middle ground? Why are Pakistani men such extremists? If its not one its GOT TO BE the other right? Why cant a woman work when she can and stay home when she has kids…why is it not as simple as that?
Most do not have this mentality, in fact it's very very few who do.
In every group you will find at least 1 lunatic who ruins it for everyone else, goes for SAHMs/working moms/pretty much every group under the sun, really.
But can you show me one thread where the women of this forum (in general) have called SAHMs pathetic? Or a thread where they suggest divorce only (except for that one thread about keeping a co-wife)?
The only thing women on this forum (in general) harp on about is wanting their own space after marriage.
The rest of your claims...where do they come from?
I don't think it's bad to be a stay at home woman (like my mummy-ji), or be a working woman (my aunty-ji) :D. What is bad is when you do nothing at all, stay at home means you handle the house, what about women whose houses are dirty beyond all reason, everything is a complete and total mess and they do nothing else. No school, no work. Also no kids, no husband. I know at least 2 women like that, they can't even make a simple roti for themselves!
