Re: Spousal immigration process for Canada
The OP asked what is the reasoning behind waiting for sponsorship to do rukhsati. I was just explaining the thought process that goes into it. I didn’t say it is the only way or that it is the right way.
There is religion and then there is culture. Yes, people can use birth control, but do most people ? In a lot of families, they believe first kid should come naturally and next one can be planned for. Generally speaking, once you start living together, people start expecting “good news.” So most parents wait.
In a love marriage, whether you start living together right away or wait for rukhsati, you’d miss your spouse either way because you’re in love. But it’s not the same in arranged marriages, which is still the norm (majority weddings) in Pakistan.
In the US, fiance visa takes a couple of months. So I know of families who have done rukhsati right away because an emotional + physical connection will strengthen the bond between the couple and they don’t need to wait forever to be together again. But the families I have seen going the sponsorship route in Canada, I don’t know a single family who has done rukhsati before the guy got here. In fact, one girl I know of, her husband has come here and they live in the girl’s house (separate rooms). The family is waiting for the a suitable time for them to do the proper wedding/rukhsati so the couple can start acting like husband and wife.