In our home it's me who cooks all the meals so I'll just tell you what I do when my experiments goes wrong, I always point out the mistake before he can tell me whats wrong and ask if he wants something else or how I can make it better. If I make bad food 2-3 times in a row then I expect him to get annoyed and he does complain but I don't mind it much because it makes me improve my cooking skills but what I can never find acceptable is if he complained in front of other people. That's completely unacceptable IMO. To me, that becomes an insult!
I totally agree with this, if one person is at home, then that's how it should be
BUT we all have off days don't we? sometimes mistakes happen with cooking, i just wonder how other people react to it.
Hmm....Sara....does the person also get mad at unintentional mistakes made in OTHER areas besides cooking? IF SO.....then may there's a deeper issue....i dunno with perfectionism or inability to accept mistakes, etc.
I think you should talk to the person....ask if there are any underlying reasons that could be causing the irritation such as frustrations at work, etc. Explain that the mistakes are not deliberate and talk about what the person's preferences in cooking and see if you can work them in. It needs to be discussed.
If the irritation is mainly confined to cooking......then you can try tasting your food in advance...if it's not right then make something else or pick something up from outside. Try making smaller portions and see how they go. Maybe get a cookbook or tried/tested/accepted recipes, or cook together to see what works.
For those of you who just go ahead and eat something else if something comes out wrong, do you never feel angry or irritated that the food didn't come out right? or the person who cooks, what if the person just isn't willing to accept an alternative and just gets annoyed/quiet?
i would get upset if i m paying someone to cook but at my home i m not paying my mother or mil or anyone else to cook the best meal for me, so what gives me the right to get angry? yeah i have seen in many families food is a huge deal but thanks god in My home we dont live to eat, we eat to live.
for some, striving for the best in all taht you do is very important. … chalao kaam mein kia mazaa hai? you could say the same bout anything then… just do enough to earn money, dont have to try extra hard to climb up the ladder of success… etc etc…
for me food is a major deal… its what i put in my body… and it deserves only the best. i like good food.. bland, burned, salty, watery, raw etc food isnt my cuppa tea… wether i am the oen making it or the one being served it. i put in the sincere effort when im doing everyting i do… i expect teh same from others. and taht is the magic word, SINCERITY.. if a person really tries and they just cant make something.. i would appreciate their tries.. and praise them… but i woudl ask them to quit making it.. there are a whole lotta dishes i just cant get right… i quit after trying a billion times… why put someone through that kidna torture?
so for me.. a sincere person deserves praises and edging on… its the dheet careless lazy slobs that cant be bothred to better themselves (in any area of life that has an effect on the ppl around them) that irk me.
alhumdolilah hubby never complains about food and I know what he likes how he likes it…
even when I have burnt, undercooked the food he knows its a mistake leaves raw edge of roti or leaves burnt dish to one side
as long as he’s fed on time no complaints…doesnt like food cooked by kitchen help neither do kids
I appreciate they want my haath ka khana but sometimes !!! thats when we go out or I order in…
I'm not fussy. I don't like spicy food so if it's too spicy for me or if they've made lamb, chicken, beef, fish etc. I'll have rice or roti with raita..
ome home after work only to be served a meal that's not so great....it's either slightly off or it's just inedible? In either case, do you--criticize/sulk? eat it quietly without complaint? throw it away? Go out and get something/make something yourself? Wait a few days and then mention how bad it came out?
I would say - I want to eat something else. My husband would do the same. Make an omelet and eat it with roti.
If I botch up food - I am the first one to say that it didn't come out right.
Usually when I have screwed up a meal (too much salt/pepper, burnt it) I am usually first to complain about it. Sometimes hubby/parents will agree or say some sugar coated thing and pretend its ok...but i know it was messed up...so whatever. On usual nights, if the food is messed up, we just make omelette or go out and eat. It is never a big deal and shouldn't be, especially if the cook worked hard to make the meal.
Oh and if I was given negative criticism (I think it happened 1 or 2 times) I told him tough luck, feed yourself as you deem fit).....no patience for criticism if i gave it an honest effort.....
Never ever happened to me. She is good cook. If she does some experiment she will make two dishes so that if the experiment goes wrong. There is this fallback plan. She will not experiment with two dishes on the same day. She is so smart. Allah sub ko aisee hee smart biwian ata farmay-a , ameen.
if my husband ever cooks something for me no matter how inedible (i havent had the chance so far to eat something he’s cooked) i would take that as the sweetest gesture and eat it … and hey it’s not like it’s going to be happening everyday so once in a while eating such food wouldnt hurt at all
Let's say you come home after work only to be served a meal that's not so great....it's either slightly off or it's just inedible?
In either case, do you--criticize/sulk? eat it quietly without complaint? throw it away? Go out and get something/make something yourself? Wait a few days and then mention how bad it came out?
And if this happens, say, a few times, either 2-3 times in a row or once in a while.....whaddya do?
If its happening on a regular basis, I may point that out. Like Niks's threshold of heat in the food is much higher than mine. Every now and then, she makes something spicy and enjoys it while I may have yogurt on the side to bring the heat down. I dont mind. However, if it ever happens on regular basis (never happened in last 14 years) then I may point that out as a suggestion, never as a criticism.
My hubby never once complained whatever I cooked for him. Sure he used to give me constructive criticism which I always appreciated but he has never cooked in his life so I can't complain about what he's cooked lol. But without meaning to sound like Im boasting, he loved my cooking as do my kids.
Keep the responses coming ppl 
