Re: Some DILs are .....
^ I agree. Its also a matter of perspectives. You have no clue what the context of the conversation was, and you might have misinterpreted what was going on. Having said that, if YOUR DIL was rude to you, then that means one thing. You've raised your son to be the kind of person that can't resolve home issues. No person in their right mind would be abusive without the presence of some catalyst (whether excusable or not).
Furthermore, if YOU chose the DIL, and not your son, then you really should be slapping yourself in the face for making such a bad mistake.
That's why you might want to consider the fat girls, and the ugly girls that might have some sort of decent personality. If you just go for the most gorgeous girl you can find for your son, like most desis do, then you shouldn't even complain when your DIL starts putting you in your place.