PCG, that's great. A few tips which I think might work in your case.
Fine Print: May not work on me. :p
Ask him to teach you some Punjabi (don't ask for the curse words, yet)
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*Originally posted by Nadia_H: *
Just want to get this straight. So in AAALL instances where the girl makes the first move, you think she is forcing the guy to like her?
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Nope she's not forcing the guy to like her....rather because men enjoy the chase...they will pursue a girl if they like her, even if they are shy, they will come up with a way. If they don't...too bad for them, they lose.
Letting him chase does not mean hiding inside, rather making sure you're avaiable, seem friendly and open BUT he initiates. simple and in my opinion saves the girls a lot of heart ache...
Thanks, Amelie 
i understand now. 
Thanks for clearing up my confusion.
i think you sort of know if the girl is somewhat interested, that's one thing, but it could be a turn off if the move is more showy..although, there could be middle ground. For instance, i was at the bank the other day, and after exchanging pleasanteries with the teller, out of courtesy, I introduced myself, and then she asked me couple of personal questions while processing my request..and before I was leaving she told me.."come see me sometime for lunch.." ..i thought that was smooth...not that i was interested, but i wasn't offended either.. since she did it in a modest manner..
i just think it has to be natural process..if you meet, and you like each other then everything should be smooth - unless the guy is really shy..but i think guys mostly like asking the girls out or whatever, but the girl has to show some kind of emotions in return if she is interested..
I dare u to go up to him n tell him wah u think :)
*find out his zodiac n let me know
its a crush, u’ll get over it soon :k:
*From my point of view, girls need to take the lead, as guys are generally clueless. *
This is soo very true!! I am the biggest idiot in this regard!
I talk to everyone exactly the same way.. once I get to know them a little I am very friendly and talkative.
If a girl approaches me and is the same I just assume ok she's just very open minded & friendly too.
Some guys are just shy others are clueless & stupid (like me lol) and most are both!
If you hardly know the guy I say first take time to get to know him and take interest in him and hopefully he will do the same.
Once you're comfortable with him just be straight forward and say it .
You know I really like you and I'd like to spend more time with you..or whatever.
From what I've seen guys only think they are making the first move...it's usually the girl who intentionally does something to get his attention to begin with.
Re: so when you find prince charming...
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what do you do to make him like you?
I know this is probably a besharam topic, but still.
I should probably fill you in on some details. The boy goes to my school. He's 1 year younger. Punjabi. (yeah, yeah - laugh all you want - life is full of ironies). A total nerd. Kinda awkward in the way he acts. Shy. I think he's mildly conservative. I've talked to him a couple of times, but I don't know if he gets my message.
So, girls, share all the tricks of the trade.
Really, please.
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i dont think he would be your prince charming if you had to do something to make him like you.
just be urself chickie :)
Boys have cooties and prince charmings are about as common as the tooth fairy. I did get $5 once when I lost a tooth so I guess it's not so uncommon. Still though, once you figure it out do post about it, if not for anyone else, for me. :)
hmm call me old fashioned but i dont believe in the girl making the first move
but my friend 
is a pro, she pulls everytime, she’s also what we refer to as a ‘heartbreaker’, shes got guys falling all over her proposing, and shes refused every single one of them, (i think shes goddamn cruel bcos shes got to know their famliies been to family gatherins etc etc) her portuguese boyfriend tried even to learn Urdu and his mom tried to pick up on Desi cooking
i guess she can make males and females like her then
she has her own tricks of the trade, its different with every guy. (depends on whose in season, slick/biker ghunda/ engineer…the list goes on)
i do know with the portuegues guy she told him she liked him, and that was after she bumped into him in town and dropped her shopping (whether that was deliberate i havent worked it out yet but khair there ya go)
hmm, never done anything to impress anyone and that too for a guy... NO. I mean whether its crush, infatuation or true love... the feeling is good enough. But umm, if I am faced with such a situation...I don't think I would do anything. Maybe strike a convo but nothing special as in dress up nicely for him or laugh or smile for no reason in front of him. I think be your self and I would say if you have the guts just go ahead and talk to the person OR if you are really daring... than darling there is no harm in vomiting out the truth but as some posters said...... it has to be done rather suavely, subtly ;)
While I would not do that myself, I don't think there is any harm if the girl initiates. I would not mind if my daughtrer or my sibling would do it. whats the hitch, you aren't comitting a sin, haan...
As far as Punjabis marrying Maimons are concerned, well... its not easy. I am telling you that, unless the girl and guy have been brought up in the west and in a totally different environment. Without sounding biased... PCG, there are so many differences the way things are done in both the communities. My own people didn't accept two rishtas for me for the brothers of my Memon friends just on those grounds.( and this wasn't for you particularly.. but since you specifically mentioned that he is a punjabi so I decided to add to it. )
Waisay is main koi muzaiqa naheen, aap bismillah karain, mohabat hona ya karna to eik fitri jazba hai... I don't believe in hiding it...Goodluck.
" ishq na puchay zaat" sighssss
Tell him you fancy him. The worst that can happen is that he will say he’s not interested. However, I’m sure he will be flattered and if he isn’t, then he isn’t worthy of you anyway. Either way, it will make you more confident.
Realistically, you can’t make somebody like you. That has to come out of their own free will. You can help them along the way by telling them that you fancy them which will perhaps make him go, “hmmm” and look at you differently, in a positive way.
What you don’t want to do is stay silent and then wonder for the rest of your life, “what if”. It’s better to know sooner rather than later.
Take a risk and tell him. Don’t be afraid of getting hurt. At least you will know where you stand.
Just become his friend first, and talk about thing you know intrest him, and the you will know is he is really your prince charming. Good Luck
I don't think you should go out of your way to act interested in things he is interested in just to get attention. As others have mentioned, it is important for you to be yourself.
Keep us updated on events as they unfold.
well whats the update pcg..ab tuk to patt jana chahiye tha munda :)
PCG - Just curious; did you want the single guys opinion or the single gals opinions? or the people who may actually have succeeding in such things ie the married ones :)
Just a thot hehehehe