Re: Singledom
Because by desi standards, you are still a child, and you can whore around until about 40 at which point, the ladies in your family will start fawning over you trying to find you a 20 year old virgin.
Ha! True that.
You're right - you're still young and not a gone case by any means. That said, I think coming to terms with the fact that women do have a shelf-life when it comes to reproduction, and by extension, marriage, can be difficult, especially when you've got lots of immediate plans/dreams/goals that don't include either. I haven't hit 30 yet but I'm getting there, and I feel like a kid who's still finding herself. I never realized until fairly recently what a priority it was for most girls to start looking/find someone by a certain time, mainly because my head's always in the clouds plotting to take over the world. You should live your life the way you want, but ultimately you can't fight numbers, and it's hard not to feel rushed when you realize you've got x years before a first pregnancy is considered high-risk. Even if you don't want kids, the muslim/south asian eligible pool shrinks as you get older, so even companionship becomes a compromise based on making do with what/who's available when you're ready. Maybe the key is to multi-task, which I don't fancy doing either, haha. Our generation wants everything, don't we.
I agree with what Zareen said about letting destiny take its course and living your life fully meanwhile, but from personal observation it does appear that girls who start early, have a plan, and are aggressive about 'landing the perfect guy' tend to get what they want.
Incidentally, I used to think it was just our culture which was ridiculous about writing off a girl when she hits a certain age, but it's the same thing with white people. Every failed relationship = child-bearing years down the drain. (There was a rerun of 'Everybody Loves Raymond' the other day where Deborah's screaming at Robert for breaking up with Amy and wasting "2 childbearing years" of hers. Aha moment for me).
To answer your question, I don't know anyone in that age group who's adopted on their own. Some live with their parents, some don't. Some 35-ishers don't want kids anymore, so they're open to marrying guys with kids, and the ones who do want kids are freaking out or resigned to the fact that biological parenthood probably won't be in their future. Others are scared of IVF and the prospect of conceiving in their late 30s. This concludes my rather depressing report ... sheesh.
