what do you want us to say? Will she come back if we tell her to? or will you accept the reality more easily if we say get over it? this is life bro, it hurts but it for a reason.. think about it this way.. everything happens for a reason, my only suggestion is to pray to Allah to give you sabar and inshaAllah you will see the benefits of this whole situation.
Stuff happens my friend. What ever happens, happens for a reason. God reveals its wisdom in mysterious ways. What happened was for the greater good. So be thankful for future is brighter and optimistic. If she hurt you, you deserved better. I know its easier said than done but try your luck elsewhere. May be you havent met the perfect woman yet. God Bless.
- Gamma
Take a long holidays somewhere very very far from there (i mean from where you live) and meet lots of people on that trip, little flirt may help build your ego back…but no more than flirt:nono: ok…with time you will heal:insha:
best wishes!
A few questions to just ask yourself and think about as you pine away for your lovely mistress.
Did you promiss to marry her?
Did you DO things with her that assured her that your “love” for her was secure and absolute?
Did you ever hit on another girl? While you were with her and also before? Were you a player?
Are you a mother’s boy?
Did you guys not agree on a lot of things that you might want to hammer out as a married couple - i.e. who does the cooking, who brings home a paycheck, can she have hobbies, can she do what she wants outside whenever she wants to, etc?
Did you make time for her?
Did you listen to her problems? Her concerns?
Do you know details about her? Like when is her birthday? What color does she like? What kind of things does she like to get in gifts? What makes her happy, etc?
Most importantly, do you have a job? A well-paying job that you can sustain a family on? Would you be in a position to buy a house or would you be living with your parents still? Are you responsible and pay bills on time and such things that would indicate you’ll be a good provider?
And if you fall short on all this, well then, be happy that you’re not married to her, cuz your life would royally suck :k:
Honestly, I have an answer for every q's of yours. Let me tell you, what kind of relationship I had with her...before falling in love we went out for a year or so., it wasn’t like Love at first sight. We did enjoy each other’s company, we hung out and stuff. Idea of moving ahead was mutual, even though, she was older than me, And only thing I can think off is probably, that was her time...as per job and education, Allhamdolilah I have finished my education, have worked for fortune 500 companies and Yes i do have money to buy couple of houses! I guess sounds everything was going right for me!!! But in btw somewhere.... something happened and ...I don’t have words to explain...(its a long story)
Bottom line is, I know I will get over it. And I did really feel good to be here, because a lot of sensible ppl are hanging' out here.
As per, going out chilling and stuff, i m thinking of going for an Umrah, probably it can give me a peace of mind, and i can pray for her and myself...
I would refer you to two ladder theory. Google it. You were bumped to a Friend Ladder. If its after a year, you should consider yourself lucky - it didn't happen after you got married.