Shall I tell you the happily ever after...the guy was 21 and I was 26. Guy wanted a 19 year old. Uncle ji wasted my time, my make up and my life!
but sometimes people meet people and change their perspectives. I wanted to wait to get married until i was atleast 30, but got married at 26 cuz I met the right person, and while initially i was looking for someone who was into my outdoors stuff like mountain biking, rafting and gliding etc, it did not matter that she has minimal interest in the stuff.
Jokes aside, it's not a case of "oh you're a guy...oh look, here' any old girl"...and force them together in the hopes that something happens. There has to be a certain level of compatibility. Aunties take this into consideration, unkils do not.
certain level of compatibility
both want to get married- check
both are human- check
both are different gender- check, check again, .. yeah check
rest is details that people can figure out themselves, say yes, no, maybe
its this precision matching aunties are trying which is making ppl complain that there are not enough people, well heck yes, u have gatekeepers galore that serve as a funnel and well if these are aunties you dont necessarily want to hang with, how well do you think they can relate to what you would be interested in
Did anyone watch that documentary on Channel 4 last summer about B'ham Central (I think) Mosque's Marriage Service?
The uncle ji's there didn't manage to fix anyone up (during however many weeks they were filiming for). They were generally sound uncles, but I don't think they understood the importance of giving their clients *some *details about potential suitable marriage partners. They did however make a very good point about most U.K families marrying their son's off back home in Pakistan, yet wanting a son in law from the U.K for their daughters.
clients can figure out details first hand without the details being glossed over, understated or overstated as I hear is common problem that self serving biased aunties do.
our approach is that we think guys and girls have more sense than a head of lettuce and can draw their own conclusions and may actually challenge their own preconceived notions about people based on height, weight, complexion, ethnicity, education level, sect etc etc.