Re: Question aimed at married husband
she'll be lucky if she can speak through that nuzzle.
^ Lol :D What ru scared she is going to say or is it a matter of gheera or something?
Re: Question aimed at married husband
Original poster never said ‘interview’ or ‘Live on air’ or anything like that. How bad that can be to just visit a Radio Station.
I'm sorry, I just have a hard time with the term "allow". I feel like my wife is my partner, I don't allow or forbid things, I trust her judgment and if she wants to do something that I dislike or disagree with, I let her know that I feel strongly about it and then it's up to her whether or not she does it.
your wife is v lucky mashallah.
I'm sorry, I just have a hard time with the term "allow". I feel like my wife is my partner, I don't allow or forbid things, I trust her judgment and if she wants to do something that I dislike or disagree with, I let her know that I feel strongly about it and then it's up to her whether or not she does it.
Too many times we just like to presume that 99% of (Pakistani) men are control freaks, who like to dictate what their wife does, or when and how she does it. I strongly disagree with that, and would safely assume that a good 75% of (Pakistani) husbands act the way you do....i-e, if they disagree with something their wife wants to do, they let her know of it, and then leave it up to her.
Safe to say, if your wife went ahead and did something you felt strongly against, you would not be happy. So in essence, you would be trying to emotionally, if not verbally or physically dictate what your wife does. That's how most husbands react, and the same holds true in case of wives. If they do not agree with something the husband is doing or wants to do, they will let him know, and use emotional tools to try to dissuade him from doing that.
Im pretty sure the poster in the first post means to ask if you would be ok with your wife working in a radio station. Seems like just the mention of words like 'allow' and 'permit' and 'let' make people scream about control, even if none exists.
Besides, a small amount of assertiveness doesnt hurt a husband-wife relationship, it helps.
Re: Question aimed at married husband
Where's the origional poster gone off to?!! Oi, AzimScot?.. Grrr, hate it when OPs do that.. pose a question then naff off leaving all following questions unanswered..
It depends on the show and for what reason she is going there..
In either case, if you agree/disagree with her going to the show, you should make your feelings known to the missus.. And if you trust her judgement, then no doubt she will do the right thing..