Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

[Reha]

Re: Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

@decentGuy

DISCLAIMER: This is just an effort to better predict divorce before marriage takes place. I’m only trying to focus on red flags that men should look out for. This is in no way an attempt to put all the blame for divorce on women alone.

There can be no right or wrong answers here, so no stressing out on that. Feel free to share your opinions.

Cultural differences seem subtle on the surface but are truly profound as we dive deeper into another culture. For example, views about suicide are quite different in West compared to those in the East. In so many cases where a western person committed suicide due to something that perhaps doesn’t seem to be such a huge deal to me necessitating such a drastic action. Similar seems to be the case for divorce.

In the small Muslim community where I live, a Pakistani man recently got divorced by his atheist American wife and the judge gave her full custody of their two children along with a huge payment on his credit as a result of a plea bargain over child neglect. He lost his job in all this, his savings are gone and he has literally become a beggar. I don’t want to discuss this case as I don’t know anything more about it.

I get involved in rishta search from time to time for family/friends from Pakistan and would like to discover factors that can help predict whether a girl raised in the West has a low threshold for seeking divorce in the future. For example, there was some study a while ago saying that hot tempered women are more likely to seek divorce.

Are there some red flags that indicate that a girl will have low threshold for seeking divorce?

This post seems strange to me…as if you’re trying to identify traits to find out whether a woman would be a carrier of a certain disease. Eliminating all possibilities of a man being the carrier.

Here’s the thing to understand and remember in any western country regarding marriage and divorce: Your potential wife (regardless of upbringing, values, family, personality, education, etc) DOES have options other than marriage. And they’re not ugly options either…divorced life is not bad in America. You may choose a woman who seems meek but if you don’t pull your weight (i.e. be fair to her, treat her with respect, don’t honor her wishes, insult her or her family, etc) you may end up divorced. You HAVE to do your part in marriage and that means cleaning up after yourself, changing those dirty diapers, doing dishes, cooking, etc. At some point in time, someone will snap that meek woman out of survival mode and make her realize she no longer has to do anything she doesn’t want to. I am merely stating what I have seen to be true too many times now.

It is not feminism, liberalism, women empowerment, etc. Its extremely common sense. If a man has a way to live a good life without being oppressed, he will. A woman (being human and all) will do the same. The stigma of divorce still exists but its becoming less and less now as is evident with your post.

A man’s last name and a small space in his home are no longer enough to sustain a marriage. Both sides need to bring more to the table. Our culture now demands a woman be educated, cultured, subservient, sophisticated, strong, etc. Total package. Nothing less with do. Eventually men will have to be the same.

P.S. - I don’t actually mean YOU…just a general you