fitoor
December 6, 2017, 1:44pm
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Re: Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman
DISCLAIMER : This is just an effort to better predict divorce before marriage takes place. I’m only trying to focus on red flags that men should look out for. This is in no way an attempt to put all the blame for divorce on women alone.
There can be no right or wrong answers here, so no stressing out on that. Feel free to share your opinions.
Cultural differences seem subtle on the surface but are truly profound as we dive deeper into another culture. For example, views about suicide are quite different in West compared to those in the East. In so many cases where a western person committed suicide due to something that perhaps doesn’t seem to be such a huge deal to me necessitating such a drastic action. Similar seems to be the case for divorce.
In the small Muslim community where I live, a Pakistani man recently got divorced by his atheist American wife and the judge gave her full custody of their two children along with a huge payment on his credit as a result of a plea bargain over child neglect. He lost his job in all this, his savings are gone and he has literally become a beggar. I don’t want to discuss this case as I don’t know anything more about it.
I get involved in rishta search from time to time for family/friends from Pakistan and would like to discover factors that can help predict whether a girl raised in the West has a low threshold for seeking divorce in the future. For example, there was some study a while ago saying that hot tempered women are more likely to seek divorce.
Are there some red flags that indicate that a girl will have low threshold for seeking divorce?
Can these be used for finding out how a man would be too? The whole point is if the person is seeking an actual life long relationship or if they are seeking to get something out of it and then a quick divorce.