Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

[decentGuy]

Re: Predicting threshold of filing for divorce in a woman

@Reha

This post seems strange to me…as if you’re trying to identify traits to find out whether a woman would be a carrier of a certain disease. Eliminating all possibilities of a man being the carrier.

Here’s the thing to understand and remember in any western country regarding marriage and divorce: Your potential wife (regardless of upbringing, values, family, personality, education, etc) DOES have options other than marriage. And they’re not ugly options either…divorced life is not bad in America. You may choose a woman who seems meek but if you don’t pull your weight (i.e. be fair to her, treat her with respect, don’t honor her wishes, insult her or her family, etc) you may end up divorced. You HAVE to do your part in marriage and that means cleaning up after yourself, changing those dirty diapers, doing dishes, cooking, etc. At some point in time, someone will snap that meek woman out of survival mode and make her realize she no longer has to do anything she doesn’t want to. I am merely stating what I have seen to be true too many times now.

It is not feminism, liberalism, women empowerment, etc. Its extremely common sense. If a man has a way to live a good life without being oppressed, he will. A woman (being human and all) will do the same. The stigma of divorce still exists but its becoming less and less now as is evident with your post.

A man’s last name and a small space in his home are no longer enough to sustain a marriage. Both sides need to bring more to the table. Our culture now demands a woman be educated, cultured, subservient, sophisticated, strong, etc. Total package. Nothing less with do. Eventually men will have to be the same.

P.S. - I don’t actually mean YOU…just a general you

When evaluating a potential rishta, different people look for different things, it’s their right. As far as attitudes toward divorce are concerned, what harm is it if both sides can try to figure out that in each other beforehand. The problem is, that the rista meetings are so formal and this talk is so dreaded that it is never discussed so I’m trying to understand if there are some polite ways with which we can make a guess about the other party’s views regarding that. I just wanted to focus on such ways for men’s side in this thread. But totally realize that there are similar concerns for a women’s side as well.