Please share the best way to prepare for the SATs

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Re: Please share the best way to prepare for the SATs

@Peony

To tell you the truth, what school you go to, your rank, the company you work for, your job title, none of this matters if you’re not happy doing what you’re doing.

I went to a top school and graduated as my class valedictorian. I ended up working with people with similar backgrounds and others from lower ranked schools, much lower GPAs, not in any exclusive honor societies or social sororities/fraternities, but none of that mattered. There was no difference between the Ivy Leaguers and the state schools, not even the social skills. Everyone came from different backgrounds and at the end of the day, what mattered most was whether we enjoyed what we did.

I too was a perfectionist. Actually, I’m a recovering perfectionist Our insatiable desire to be number 1 and perfect is detrimental to our own well being. From my personal experience, I have come to realize that it is not perfection that we should aim for but for excellence. Also, I’m not going to push my kids to get ahead and Achieve, Achieve, Achieve at no expense because the true expense is the waste of a happy life. At the end of the day, all parents want their kids to be happy. Sometimes, they mistakenly believe that happiness comes from achievements, accolades, big salaries, and snazzy titles. if only…

Hi peony.. So inspired to see tht you were valedictorian.. this is such an achievement.. I love your post .. this idea that in life one should be happy doesn’t matter if they succeeded or not… achieve anything or not.. just be happy.. soo I am a living example of this very idea. I graduated with a design major - just because I loved art… I could have done accounting, business or anything but it was too great a force inside me and i followed it… i loved it while i worked because i loved my work… Now comes the question of asking your kids to achieve and excel.. dear let me tell you … today’s media brain wash already makes it a norm to fail a class because it is cool! and don’t be a straight A nerd… I saw it in my boys and all I did was told them hey, just because you get A’s doesn’t make you uncool! repeatedly.. this was like an ongoing thing .. imagine if I never asked them.. with the amount of distractions these days games .. you tube.. they would probably be failing high school..remember they are just kids. They don’t ‘want’ to go to school.. don’t ‘want’ to do their homework.. so what will make them..
I disagree on 1 that I am a perfectionist… but, I do realize my job to raise them with proper whats the word ‘tarbiat’ upbringing.. I have an example in my own family, where the parents weren’t assertive at the right time… and now its too late.. the kids is failing HS let alone going to a college.. breaks my heart.. Question my dear peony beta jee is where do you stop .. For example, I see that my lil one has grt interest in writing. Now, If i get keen on him being a doctor.. thats where it would be wrong.. let me disagree with you one more time on the Number 1 comment.. No I haven’t asked them to be #1. All I ask is…Just don’t stop before your potential… it is a fine line again.. but encouragement and positive reinforcement is a must…you can not let them be… you just can not..

Again don’t feel that all your achievement is equal to nothing.. there is and always will be a difference between community college and Ivy leaguers.. You don’t have to push your kids.. you just have to make them realize that you do it once in your life.. so make it the best .. lastly.. if happiness doesn’t come from big salaries.. it also doesn’t stop it .. as long as you have the right attitude and right mind set.. where there is more charity than material gain..sure happiness does come from money…

now wish my babies luck