i was watching this show on ARY tonight, and it was some mother’s day special..
anywho, there was a guy who had gone to a womens’ old folks home, you could say. so he goes there and interviews these ladies who have been brought there by their children.
there was one lady he interviewed who said that her son had brought her here, and further went to say that it was her only child! could you imagine that? i was shocked! how could you do that to your mother! :no: and that poor old lady’s only wish was for her son to come and take her home.
and then the interview guy was asking the lady that ran the home about other women that were there, and she said that there was one lady who had been brought by here by her children, who had also bought a coffin and left it there for her. i mean, is the world really this cruel? forget about the world, are us muslims really that disrespectful towards our parents?!
these type of people don’t realize yet…they’ll only realize it when they themselves are lying on their death bed, and *their *children are no where to be seen.
when Allah says ‘Paradise lies at the feet of your mother’ - there’s nothing more true than that.
Love *is *better expressed with actions, but words are really important as well. I've no problem making my mom feel *extra *special on Mother's day. No one says you have to go all out and spend a fortune. Neither does it mean you don't treat your mom well throughout the rest of the year. Doing something special for mother's day doesn't mean you've fulfilled your duty, or that you've 'paid' her back for everything she's done for you. Commercialized or not, it's so your mom gets an *extra *special attention on Mother's day.
Why then wait for this ONE day to tell your mother you love her. Why not do it every day? Why do we have to be told its *this *day that you have to be extra nice to her.
I hereby declare everyday of the year to be Mother's Day.
All you mothers and mother lovers out there. Believe me i'm right up there with you guys about lovin our mums. I'm not trying to take some randomly selected *Mother's Day *away from you. I am infact rooting to make it Mother's Day every day of the year! Why do you guys have to wait for this one day to be extra nice? Why cant you be extra nice to your mothers always?
As for muslims you guys dont even have a choice. Mother's day or not you have to be extra nice to your mums everyday.
Where does it say that if you've said "I love you" to your mom on mother's day, you've been banned from saying it on other days? Or that you 'wait' for mother's day to say it. And how do you know people who celebrate mother's day *aren't *nice to their moms on other days? Isn't that an assumption on your part? I'm sure plenty of people hug their moms and say I love you to them everyday, and they know about how important it is in islam to treat your mothers.
All you mothers and mother lovers out there. Believe me i'm right up there with you guys about lovin our mums. I'm not trying to take some randomly selected *Mother's Day *away from you. I am infact rooting to make it Mother's Day every day of the year! Why do you guys have to wait for this one day to be extra nice? Why cant you be extra nice to your mothers always?
As for muslims you guys dont even have a choice. Mother's day or not you have to be extra nice to your mums everyday.
lol, b/c goura ppl don't have time for everyday kind a love for their mothers...
instead of wishing all the moms happy mother's day i sent everyone this message :D
"Woman in the home has not yet lost her dignity, in spite of Mother's Day, with its offensive implication that our love needs an annual nudging, like our enthusiasm for the battle of Bunker Hill." ~John Erskine
am sure most of da ppl didnt like it one bit but this is da truth! I mean wat da heck, why follow meaningless yearly rituals
Good post.....but only if you're being hassled about what you gave to your mother.
If this is a whine or if you are simply trying to impress upon people that you are better than the "gora" for fulfilling your duty to your parents everyday and not only on commercialized days, then I'm sorry, but it really doesn't hold water with me.
I'm sick of people trying to differentiate themselves from "goray" and labelling those that make an effort as wannabes by showing how much better they are for upholding their own cultures and religions.
I'm tired of this argument that this is a "western holiday" or "tradition" and we are kaafirs if we recognize or celebrate it.
Instead of looking for negativity, think positive people! Even if you DO behave as the dutiful son or daughter and fulfill all your obligations, that doesn't put you above others. It only brings you on par to to the measure with which you will be judged. (i.e. by Allah, of course). If doing something special on a certain day (like her birthday or mother's day or anniversary) brings some extra joy in her life then, for the sake of only that, why not do it?!
I don't have a mother to appreciate anymore and I can't remember how many times I didn't celebrate Mother's Day because I thought I was being a good muslim by overlooking it. I'm sorry I was so misled and I wish I could roll the calendar back so that I could tell her how much I love her and do something special for her on just ONE MORE MOTHER'S DAY!
I celebrated Mother's Day by getting flowers for my sister from Noor as she often looks after her. I bought a gift for her from me, to recognize her first Mother's Day as a mom. I bought flowers for aunty who was coming over for dinner and I also bought a gift for my sister-in-law, whom I consider to be in place of my mother.
Since Mother's Day is celebrated on a different date in UK, I wrote a card for my mother in law.
I dare anyone to come up to me and suggest that what I did was wrong or sinful or that it compromised my imaan in any way.
We do extra special things for our mother on her b'day, mother's day, and her anniversary. I don't see anything wrong with that. We get her flowers every now and then, take her shopping, do things around the house to make her feel special.
To all the mentally challenged individuals who are questioning Cheegum's post, I think he is raising a point against corporations milking us and telling us to go buy cards and gifts for our mothers just because it is "Mother's Day". Now shut up and applaud the thread :o .
How will they applaud the thread if they are already shut up? I think you should let them temporarily un-shut-up so they can cheer it, and then shut up again permanently. That may work.
What people like Mamaof3 dont understand is that a good majority of us do not suscribe to Western Culture, festivals and values.
These are your festivals, you celebrate them...because your parents desperatetly need something like this, because of the type of treatment you give them.
