[QUOTE] Originally posted by Zakk: *
*Instead of the girl, it is the guy and his family who at times take out loans to get wed
Thats the practice done in Pashtun society as well. It's closer to the Arabs and Islamic traditions, but taking loans for a marraige JUST because of social pressures is not good.
Faisal: You hit the nail right on it's head, Pakistan has countless laws regarding Dowry and corruption, it's a question of morality, not law, that stops people from obeying them.
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I agree with you Zakk in the Islamic traditions it is the guy and his family who take care of everything, but like you said sometimes too extreme is just too much.
This is practiced with Arabs, Pathans, Turks and lots of others Muslims. I think with Pakistanis it's just an Indian influence that found it way to them.
this so called ACT totally SUCKS!! without all the decoration, food, hungama the FUN of a pakistani shadi is taken out!! as far as the dowry and what nots, that should just be up to the parents of the bride!! whatever they can afford/want to give to their DAUGHTER!! my wedding is gonna be in pakistan in january so if this becomes a LAW by then, im gonna have to cancel my plan for even GOING there!!
Your PS was the main part of your message, Saadia. As long as it is not possible to arrange even the basic elements for a wedding with the proposed amount, such laws can’t be followed by the people.
I agree that there needs to be limitation, but keep it in realistic figures. And I’m saying it once again: 50,000 Rupees is definitely not a realistic figure.
Well I don't think that the new law will be observed anyways. We all know us and the administration.
But still I think its a good try. Let them try it out.:)
Well seems like most, if not all, agree that a limit is a good idea in Pakistan's social structure.. however the dispute is primarily on the limit amount, as it is deemed too low to be practical.
Ok, so in the interest of getting somewhere, please post what you think is a more realistic limit? Both in terms of wedding function and dowry/gifts?
Does one size fits all? If not, how will you separate various classes of people, from a simple farmer/mazara'a to a seth owning dozens of factories? What do you think is the best way to implement such a law?
Well I have always thought of it like this, if a person can afford and like hte huge wedding walima then go for it. However, I have always hated all those dowry and gifts. I mean gosh, whats up with us people, people only talk about what gifts did you get and how much of a dowry. Gosh!
I have a simple way out of this, in my case. IF I get married, I want to get my own stuff ready, he and I can get a flate ready and fill it up by ourselves. If the parents want to help in any way so be it. And as far as the gifts goes, why do females want all that gold for? Man I have gold that I have never even wore before, so why do I need MORE? I will get the typical bridal gold, but I think thats it. I will buy my own clothes, I do not want to get dresses that I will never wear again. I could better get something for my home then an expensive dress that I will not get a chance to wear only once.
I think a GIFT should be just that, a simple nice gift, not car loads of them.
Instead of placing stupid laws , they should invest money in promoting values.
While the government praises this law, I'd like any politician in Pakistan to follow the law at the wedding of their son/daughter. If they spend less then 10,000 rupees - i'll be willing to do so also.
I can get married without food without big flashy wedding but i am not ready to get married without those nice clothes and make-up. I haven’t used any make-up except lipstick and eye shades once in a blue moon and I have a right to look good on that day
Secondly I have a lot of stuff that i use abhi which includes jewllery and loads of other stuff that i use abhi and plan to take with me afterwards Insha Allah. In all this where does that fit?
waisey who said key am getting married abhi anyways
but no i won’t approve of this law It’s my wedding I should decide what i want not General Musharaf
one a bit more serious note, i actually heard from someone in paki that they are going to enforce the NO FOOD at SHAADIs law !! SOMEONE DO SOMETHING!! i am going there for my wedding!! ABH KYA HOGA?????????????????????????????????????????????????
It’s my wedding I should decide what i want not General Musharaf 
someone do something