I am very close to my phuphu. My face resembles hers, and I think she is very pretty. So whenever someone used to tell me in Pakistan that you look like your phupu, I would get super happy. When my phupu had her 1st kid, she named him ihtishaam. As a child, I couldn’t pronounce ‘shh’ and used to replace it with ‘tuh’. So this one time, I was playing with him and I called him ihtataam. My phuppu heard me and slapped me on my face. Then she kept asking me to say shh, which I couldn’t of course. I had tears in my eyes and my mom got so mad and went to daadi. lol Kind of the opposite situation to yours. My daadi hugged me and asked phuppu to kindly pack her bags and go home to cool off. lol pretty funny!
you are right.. phuppis / maamis/ khals all change , when it comes to their children. We have been through this hell of changing attitude. sahi kaha hai Allah ne ’ maal aur aulad insaan ke liye fitna hai’.
They start looking at you from different angle. would be damaad / bahoo and if its not possible for some reasons, all attachment between brothers / sisters and their children vanishes rapidly.
hmm I don’t know about that. My mom is really close to one of her sisters. This khala has always wanted to do rishta in my family, but we didn’t want to. It hasn’t affected her closeness with my mom one bit.
The attachment vanishes perhaps when one party’s kids become more accomplished in one way (study, work, money, rishtas, looks, etc) and the other side has to struggle. Competition and jealousy between cousins is not good.
