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My phuppo sucks. My entire extended family sucks. I don’t like anyone apart from immediate family - siblings, parents, nephew/nieces. They all can go to hell for all i care
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^aww pisiform
@RV I didn’t know tyais could be bad too 
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You learn something never every day kid. 
Too bad they’re never bad enough to warrant a separate thread in their “honor.” It’s always mils, phuppos and khalas that steal the show. 
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^lol I am gonna steer clear of tyais now, I seriously trust ppl so much
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Yeah tyais suck big time man. Jealous creatures
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^thanks for the warning!
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Ahan… You go tubelight!!! You shine that light of yours… On them nastaay tayis aka jhetanis!
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they so nasty they will drain her power and she will go dim
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Then nastay tayis will never see the light.
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wow tyais are like that, wow newsflash! what abt chachis?
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My chachi is good people MashaAllah. I love her.
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aww see at least there is someone nice, some people are so fake I can’t even tell if they are nice or not
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This is the first time I’m hearing of evil khalas… so very surprising. I’m very close to my nanhyal- not a habit my mother instilled, they have always cared for me than my dadhyal ever did- only good people there were dada and dadi. I had two khalas, the eldest died, so only one left. She drives me up the wall sometimes because she is so bipolar lol, but I love her. She is like my second mom, and my mom and she are both like mothers to my eldest khala’s kids as well. I assumed all khalas are like this; I am able to wrap my mind around the concept of some women not liking bhabis , but why would you have something against your own sister? My eldest khala has one daughter, but I am close to her like I am to my own sister, her kids adore me and my sister and saghi khalas, and we feel the same towards them. Definitely a new notion for me.
I am not a phuppo yet but I think I will be neither the super lovey dovey type nor thw one who wishes bad and negative for the kids(judging the behaviour of bhabi towards her inlaws :D)I will be the “jahan raho khush raho, jub milo hans kar milo” type phuppo.
I think the relation depends on
a- whether you’re a married phuppo busy with your own life OR an unmarried phuppo living with your parents and bhai bhabi etc OR how often you see the kids and bhai bhabi
b- your relation and family dynamics (politics) with the bhabi and bhai. If the bhabi is negative, she will make sure to infuse negative thoughts in kids about the phuppos and dadi and avoid meeting/mingling with them which automatically make you oblivious of their existence eventually.
My kids have 3 phuppos who love them a lot and although we dont meet and see them much, they are in constant contact with each other on phones, skype, whatsapp etc almost daily.
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Even if your bhabi may not be nice with u, what fault is that of the kids to be denied of the love they deserve of u?
MashaaAllah i love my family and vice versa! Esp the kids.
^kids will have a chance to experience and get their deserved love only if and when their mom lets them meet and talk to their phuppos much and talks positive about the ILs infront of the kids..otherwise phuppos will be just another aunt out kids see/meet out there in the world and no bonding.
My kids have the most awesome tayee ever !! They call her BHABI after me and husband since always and she calls them munnay devar in return 
and that makes her the most awesomest jethani ever too mA mA. There all all kinds of people and we cannot generalise them at all.
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That’s so unfortunate! But u shud fight for yr rights.
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Yup, have seen cases where on the birth of a niece/nephew the phuppos, dadi,dada were so excited and happy but the Bahu kept them at distance from day one, not involving them in any of the celebrations, not taking suggestions for naming the kid,not letting them sit around the kid much etc etc, and eventually the distance widens.
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I grew up with my Dads side of the family. His family was always jealous of my mums side, and also my mums side did not live in the same country. When visiting Pakistan , my Dads mum forbade us from visiting our Nanyaal.
We grew up with one Phopho, who has now passed away, but she always made life hell for us, always telling our dad things about us etc, stirring about my Mum. Its been a long time now, my cousins from my Phopho and my sibs and i are very close. We discussed some things etc, let the rest ‘rest in peace’,
After the death of my father we re aquainted ourselves with our Nanyaal side of the family. Now, we are VERY VERY close to my khalas and mamus. My youngest khala is only 3 years older than myself.
Present time ..my children.
My children grew up with their Dadyaal. They have one Phopho, who always yelled at them, nothing to do with my children etc. We could not say anything due to in laws. However one day,she visited and yelled at my children, my in laws complained how the children would not talk with their Phopho. I finally lost it, and told her how she treats the children, yells at them, and how do you expect them to get along with you.
My children do not get along with their Phopho, she has no time for anyone, even her own parents.
So my children grew up with Dadyaal, and just last week, my husbands Mum and brother complained to DH how the children do not get along with them, how (me) has brainwashed the children against them.
DH hates confrontations of any sort, simply said to the above" My children grew up with you, lived in the same house as you, YET you were unable to form a relationship with my children, don’t blame my wife or her family (who does not live in the same country)" After that they all shut up.
I am now a Phopho, I have a “”""as a Bhabhi. I love my nephews, and love them because my brother is important to me. I love my brother, and want to maintain a relationship with him, whether I like his wife or not.