Peculiar Behavior...

Lifestyle Relationships
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:hmmm: so it took him a few MONTHS to figure out calling/talking is non-islamic !!! …
few more months and he’s gonna switch to kabooter mail … cuz , who knows … maybe electronic media isn’t islamic either … :smiley:

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jubhee kanwarey ghoom rahey ho :slight_smile:

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That's odd. Why did it take him a few months to realise this? Btw is it normal to talk to someone random for a few months before deciding they're marriage material? It could be he doesn't want to form an emotional bond before anything is concrete.

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Thanks D6C , :hmmm:

:hehe:

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It doesn't sound right . Something is wrong here .

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Hai na? ^

What is wrong though?

You think he is just messing around?

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No. If he was messing around, he wouldn’t suggest to change the medium of communication.

Okay, so I’ve talked to some guys for rishtaa purposes using some of these online services ( :rolleyes: What a waste of time IMHO). But my perspective based on some experiences.

It’s possible, he’s just turned on by her voice. And he’s probably like…I don’t wanna do anything stupid or embarassing, so let me just text her instead.

So, I talked to this one dude and he was like (dunno if I told you guys this story) : Oh your voice is really pretty, did anyone tell you that?

Me: Really? Ok. I think it’s squeaky, but whatever floats your boat.

Him: No, I mean it’s reallllly sexy. … You wanna have phone sex?

Me: You wanna put a 10,000 ring on my finger? Get a nikkah? Introduce me to your mom maybe?

Him: Why you gotta be like that?

That was the last conversation I had with that dude. I’ve talked to a friend of mine who uses these online services to meet people wayyyy more frequently than I do, and she’s like, this sort of thing is pretty common actually.

So, maybe its just some temptation this guy is facing, and he doesn’t wanna subject her to his own inner demon?

If he wasn’t interested, he’d probably just cut down the frequency of his calls. To like…never calling her…

Trust me. If they’re not interested. They do not call.

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PCG, you are master of entering a thread with a simple topic and turning it into a freaky conversation :bummer:

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shrugs I don't know, man. I like to share, so people can learn from my experiences. Also, honestly, I hate how Pakistani men do a lot of crap, and either it gets brushed under a rug, or they expect no one will talk about it, because what honorable girl would, or they expect that no one will blame them for it.

Puhlease. Our men are no farishtay and the dirt should come out on them once and for all. I have no problem sharing what silliness they are upto.

Anyway, the whole topic got me thinking that this guy is probably sharmeela that he is attracted to her voice and he wants to keep it halaal.

Meh, kudos to him.

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Or honestly, maybe she talks too much and txting is his way of keeping things within certain time limit.

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Oh comon. Desi girls talking too much?

I don't see it.

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I am sorry. I take my words back ...what was I thinking

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Well its weired indeed
what happend first few months that was not haram?
either he is re-born Muslim or he is tired of talking to the lady.
i personally think its the last. i think its his way of taking a step back
after that telling her that he can’t marry her is much easier.

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its plain weird....if she wants to continue with the guy she needs to ask to him to explain his reasoning further (just saying islam isn't enough)

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^
Totally agree .... its plain weird. I would personally be skeptical of any further reasoning given too since its like what the hell changed that it was ok for the first couple of months and now?

Either a dude is chill with talking with a non-mehram or isn't. And resorting to texting over callling? Last i checked it was still a form of "communication"... so he's still communicating with a non-mehram. Weirdo IMO.

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depends of course how strong your believe is and how much practising you are.
but islam is enough that is not the point here.
the point is that he is being a hypocrite and she should ask why he is doing this
now and why not months before?? i mean untill we do not know that discussing further is
not wise.

Its nice to disucuss this here but we need to know more from both of them.
But again she should not let this happen and ask from him why is did he come to this decision.
lekin believe me the brother wants to run away from her and is to scared to tell her his mother did choose another girl for him :D

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You got me all wrong.....or maybe I said it wrong.....yes is Islam is reason enough but he needs to back himself up he cant say "I'm only going to text you from now on because of Islam"and that be the end all be all, he needs to provide further explanation such as Islam doesn't allow non-meharams talking to one another so I don't want to talk to you over the phone, then she could have asked well why the sudden epiphany? or aren't we not suppose to communicate at all the technically....etc.

I don't know if that makes any sense......but yes he's being a hypocrite

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That's most probable. Or, maybe, mama saw the phone bill.

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LOL

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i dont this that this guy is dodgy or weird , they started talking for rishta purposes .. so initially they talked on the phone just to really get to know each other

now he may be more relaxed with her and can switch to texts , its awkward texting each other from the start when you dont even know what the other person sounds like.

also i dont understand , if someone wants to start following islam and do a right thing then why is that considered wrong

yeh texting a na mehram is haram , but its better than talking to him , people take one step at a time ...

he doesnt need to grow a beard overnight to be islamic you know.. he migth have decided he wants to follow islam properly now and this could be a start....