funguy I like your observation and NAMING the behavior trait!!!
us girls don’t have a split personality - I think 
no… I DO have ego issues - like a BIG EGO issue… that’s why I turned to GS for help 
It’s THEM who suggested to leave ego behind and just go n’ check it out.
^ good... u r like me then....
.....wese, mine never took me to the Xmas parties too.. he says spouses are not allowed and i never showed any interest either in any other get together he offered me to go... .......
NJMasti,
my husband doesn’t take me to his work do’s, and vice versa. I work in CYPS for my local government and we have a 98%+ female only staff so we all don’t bring partners.
My husband works in a mainly male dominated sector-there is a few girls he works-the guys he works with are mainly ‘aapne’ some with ‘issues’ e.g. most see their wives as something to keep at home and then have a girlfriend outside too.
Considering we both socialise without the other half being present we’re cool with it-I’d never want to go to his do’s-they seem so boring whereas our do’s are nicer because its loads of girls 
It’s not an issue for us because we report back what happend at the do’s-I do think it would be different if I had no social circle though, but that’s me.
Can I ask, does the fact your other half says he drinks lightly bother you? I know it would get my goat and I’d want to go to the parties just to watch over him 
He just started the “social drink”.. that too after he met these two “drinking brothers” since past one year.
So I told him I want to taste the drink too! He said if you like Red Bull then you might be able to take the smell of it and even bother to drink.
I HATE Red Bull… and I have sniffed budwiser… eveeeeee they are all too gross to smell.
I don’t get it ! What the fun in drinking something that smells like cow pee?
However, I don’t think I would be concerned about hubby getting drunk. He is just not the type.
Even let’s say if EVER he got drunk then just one phone call to his dad back home and his world would come tumbling down.
so no he wouldn’t dare.
I don't get it ! What the fun in drinking something that smells like cow pee?
I don't get it either-there are perfectly fine alcohol free versions on the market, in clubs, pubs and bars across the UK and USA. Why not get some and test them-or get your man to drink them?! Maybe he will stop even having the odd drink?
it's your husband! what ego? You should just ago..so what if you have begged him to take yu so many times? He should have taken you along all the time unless there's an obvious reason..and it's natural that you kept asking him why he isn't cause it botherd the crap out of you..so just go! YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO GO!
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^ ... but.. don't know what to do...
he just told me once about the upcoming party and asked me if I would like to go - just ONCE last week... he has not brought up the topic after that at all :(
(I am beginning to look desperate but I don't know how can I come out dignified and still manage to go)...
oh God one and half more months of torture - until the big holiday party.
I don't get it either-there are perfectly fine alcohol free versions on the market, in clubs, pubs and bars across the UK and USA. Why not get some and test them-or get your man to drink them?! Maybe he will stop even having the odd drink?
hubby is not into drinking.. but I think he feels the pressure when everyone has a drink in their hand.
My mother does not go to my dad's office parties. He took her before I was born and some drunk coworker was flirting too much with her. My dad goes alone to them now but if they do a park picnic he'll take all of us. But we know how he is and so we trust him at those parties. I already threatened him that if I ever found out he cheated, I'd injure him an leave him out to die a poor dog's life.
LOLLLL where do you come from?!
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hes your husband. of course you should go. 