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Personally, I think the whole idea of asking a potential groom how much money he makes is rude. If he's an engineer or doctor or has a "profession", chances are he's making decent money so why the need to ask him to provide this information in his bio-data/via the rishta wali setting the two up? Tsk. These days, people also want to know how much money the girl is earning. It's just so inappropriate.
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sorry mehnaz be realistic. I am not going to spend my life with someone who tells me This is what i will do ? i will finish mba or msc? blah blah and blah
Tell me what have you done and leave rest up to me.
How can a girl marry a guy without knowing if her future is going to be secure or not?
I dont think i will ask about the money up front like that. I will ask for what does he do and with what company. once i have that information 411 is awesome with numbers of companies.
I dont think its wrong for the guy or girl to know how much they are making. I refurse to jump in water without testing if its cold or warm.
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Believe me, I am being realistic. Nia, I'm talking about potential in-laws who say, "oh my son makes over $100,000 (and therefore he's a great catch)" and others who flat out ask the guy (meaning the girl's parents) how much money he makes before he even has a chance to get to know the girl. It's ridiculous.
Ask any guy who has been asked this how he feels about the girl's parents wanting to know how much money he makes before he's even given a chance to see the girl and you will know what I am talking about.
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I'm not marrying a poor Joseph, he better be successful - there is nothing wrong with wanting the best for your kids. Different people have different priorities. Some have money - they get matched with those who appreciate people appreciating money. It all works out, we all get who we deserve. Why get bothered.
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If they ask the parents before the guy and girl have even seen each other then yea that is bad...but nia_khan made a good point also...parents don't just want to "hand over" their daughter blindly...i think it's all in the way u ask and the timing. And u don't have to ask for the exact income and all the details, a rough number shud be sufficient...besides, ppl aren't stupid...thesedays with the internet n all, u can find out easily how much a certain profession pays...so y not be open about it in a polite way...i guess it just depends on how it's done.
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^ yup, I agree. It's different if there is an understanding between the two, but rudely asking up front without even knowing the other family like that does indeed happen and that's the type of thing I'm talking about here.
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hiccup, I thought u were a grandma already.
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Najim stop thinking. Rationing is the key. :k:
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...And the guy earns sawaab of how many nafls to marry an oriental princess?
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The girl's side measures up the guy in terms of his financial position and the guy's side evaluate the girl in terms of how she looks. Fair deal.
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mehnaz it would be funny if girl makes over 100k and guy is stuck at 50k. Its perfectuly fine if its other way around...
Why is that?
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Errr, that's another discussion altogether Nia. What I'm talking about in my above posts is how this whole issue is initially discussed in the first place.
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Ashley, not fair :nono: …write up man!
It’s quite funny how we are openly equating guy’s finances to girl’s beauty. Is marriage a polite and acceptable version of the ‘business’?
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Pets replacing babies=bad
Pets replacing men=good.