Pakistani Men-disgrace

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U r right Sarah :k:
That rapist will then learn a lesson of his life.

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I always wondered what would happen if my daughters started carrying a can of pepper spray and using it on gropers when we are in pak, or tried out some of her self-defense moves on them :)

Honestly, did you ever hear about the hijabi in either Jordan or Lebanon who beat up a couple of guys who were harrassing her - those men learned an important lesson that day.

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Hmm pepper spray? Interesting idea :ahaa:

Next Desi Manners question.
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After reading all of this I have to say that we woman, particularly mothers, are just as much at fault. When is the last time you slapped a guy who groped you?

If an American man groped me, made disgusting comments, or looked at me in a totally inappropriate manner, he would receive, and would expect, one tight slap. That is a deterrent to lewd behavior.

Mothers in particular are at fault, especially in Pakistan and India, because it is the mother's duty to instill in her son the proper way to treat a woman. I don't tolerate my son even talking to his sisters in a rude voice, and I would never make comments about a girl deserving rude treatment because she was dressed a certain way or out and about.

If we all taught our sons to behave and how to treat women as though they are all ladies (regardless), then that would change a lot of their behavior. Having two different standards, one for daughters, one for sons, is a leading cause of this type of behavior. In addition, many desi guys were never taught how to interact with girls appropriately. Instead, all they ever heard about was sexual urges.

Maybe if we focused more on the proper way of treating a girl, instead of, "she'll cause you to feel lusty, so stay away from here", then boys wouldn't only look at girls in that way.

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i so do not agree with you....if paki girls were all friendly and everything to the paki guys they would probably be considered "BAD" and you know what i mean by bad...and if we do we get to hear comments like ""OH YOU ARE SOO IGNORENT, ARROGANt, what do u think of yourself sum beauti queen ect...like what the hell is that all about?...and indian girls are just skanky...

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r u sure the auntee was sardarni. cuz this sounds like something a pakistani auntee would say.

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if you dont want to marry a pakistani, then who do you want to marry?

I can tell you that arabs are much worse....ever been to saudi and seen the way the men stare etc? i find arab countries much worse. Egypt is the same......and im sure this happens in every country.

as for a gora -i think they are the worst.....ever seen dirty builders and how they stare at women and make disgusting comments. they are just sick.

as for pakistanis, I have alot of respect for most pakistani guys -talking from experience :)

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Sara516

" That's what i was asking you, instead of assuming :) if a woman wud be blamed for being in the wrong place and wrong time".

u must be from some f#cked up place back home, if sh#t like that happens whilst u going around ure daily business.

"A woman has every right to go where she pleases without being attacked" , is that really the village mentality or your opinion?"

it's the opinion of any straight thinking person.....see the thing is i ain't never heard of it happen where my parents are from...i've been back a few times and seriously,things involving men and women are very strict......

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Prince Ali

"That rapist will then learn a lesson of his life."

i can't believe how soft some paki men can be, i meant the guy would be killed by sunset......if some man rapes ure sister/wife/mother etc...u kill him....u don't teach him a lesson......u end it for him and set an example for others by doing so.....rape is a serious crime not something u punish with jail/beating etc.
from ure name, i guess ure a man, imagine if it was ure sister, u trying to say that u'd let him live.......can't believe some of u guys..........

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^ Sadly, thats the thinking here.. if a woman was groped/raped she deserved it for being too attractive, for being too trusting, for being a victim.. Alrite, when my mom was really young, like 12, 13 yrs old, someone threw ice at her head, either accidentally or intentionally, as she was walkin to school with her sisters/cousins.. later on my mamu beat the crap outta her for getting hit..I mean its not the xact same thing, but she was doing nothing wrong and she still got beat up for getting hit..and even now, women are raped and abused and isntead of getting justice, they're blamed and told to hush up, "ussko moka kyoon diya chernay ka".. and that's my experience of Pakistan and its ppl

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chacha, thas another thing.. i dunno abt other families, but in ours, we dont discuss this kinda stuff wiht our dads/brothers/male relatives, out of sharam and hayya.. the grl who talks abt getting raped is the beysharam one, not the one who did it..

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i agree bro, the dude wud not survive the day..me, my bro, cousins, and friends wud make sure of dat.

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Sara,
the men in those type of families can't be very perceptive, i mean, if theyr'e girl in their family is raped or had some other terrible thing happen too her, they should be able too realise something has happened by the change in the girls emotional state, she doesn't have too discuss it with the males in the family, her mother just needs too have a word with her father/brother and they take it from there.
I understand that a girl might try and keep it from her family, either because her family might blame her or she's scared of what her dad/brother might do, she shouldn't let the latter stop her from tellin her family, because that man needs to be dealt with, and if she's from a family who'd put the blame on her, then i feel sorry for her.
There's only 2 explanations for such a family,
1) they're thinking about theyr'e daughters future, i.e because of our stupid culture, families don't want theyr'e sons too marry girls who have been raped, and by seeking justice it would almost definately mean their daughter could not find a husband aswell as bringing 'so called shame 'on the family.
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[FONT='Times New Roman']2) the men in the family are total cowards, and are scared of the potential violence between them and the man/his family.......but its got to be done, this can't be an excuse. u dont have too go and shoot him infront of witnesses, i mean people do go and get runover, as far as his family know, it was a hit and run by some motorist......but its got too be done.

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Some hide it well..

and then we hear "yeh Pakistan hai, ithar aisa hi hota hai" .. if ppl whove lived here all their lives, never stepped foot outisde the country say this, then why the hell shud I be criticized for saying the same thing? :(

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