pakistani dawat trends

[Sara516]

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@Chicken_Biryani

Well there is a way of doing things .. when we invite gora’s, we make less of our desi dishes and focus more on what would intrigue them from their cuisine.
I too keep a mixed menu sometimes but it very much depends on the guests .. for example a few months back I invited a gora family of 5 for dinner and I had made chicken pie, lasagna and a lamb curry with saffron rice ..

The same formula goes for the desi’s too, when we have desi guests over we try to put on the menu what highlight the best of the desi menu with a tinge of non desi cuisine maybe .. for example Nihari, haleem etc are considered high profile dishes so we focus on them .. with maybe a non desi side dish or salad or starters ..

Its called being considerate of the guest’s comfort zone …

That is a good point Ms Lasagna..err I mean biryani.

I still don’t think one deserves to be looked down upon or that it’s a matter of insulting or complaining…I mean someone’s going through trouble (doesn’t matter how much u love it, it’s still an effort) to cook you something.

Then again if I went to a davat that had nothing but pork or veggie dishes and the host knows I’m not a pork eater or vegetarian, I would be annoyed too.

Ok im contradicting myself. I know.

[akmoti]

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@Chicken_Biryani

I asked this lady once, who said something similar to everyone but always cooked awesome food .. When we became friends , I asked her subtly why women from Pakistan dont feel proud of their cooking skills ..

She said she was under the impression that women abroad are very modern and dont go into the kitchen much and also in Pakistan, the cooks and kaam wali’s are readily available to do the cooking , so its like a common thing now that girls who dont know how to cook are considered “modern”

Till date, I have been unable to understand what being “modern” has to to with “cooking skills” .. I do wonder occasionally , if cooking is seen as a nokar’s task in desi culture?

that is true! i’m from pakistan too but not everyone have cook…we have maids for cleaning n laundry n washing dishes…but we used to cook khana…when our relatives visit from abroad they always request for pulao biryani chapli kababs i mean desi food…while me n sis were always experimenting on nondesi cuisine(not for guests)…

@polished_gems

I’m curious what dishes do they make? What does a newbie bride from Pakistan menu look like, if you don’t mind sharing?

when i came to middleeast after wedding…some friends invited us n they cooked all desi food biryani kababs kheer and qorma…so i dropped my plan for desi menu!..when we invited them(the very next day) i cooked zeera rice with mint n coriander chopped in it with baked garlic chicken with white sauce and baked mashed potatoes…peach cobbler for dessert…they had all these for the first time n they loved it lol so i was relaxed…
and when we invited them few months later again…they requested for same menu:D

[Chicken_Biryani]

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So yesterday an aunt of mine called and during general gupshup this same topic came under discussion.. I asked her, her thoughts and she said something that I really really liked ..

She said the most important thing that you need to keep in mind when you are inviting a family the first time or even a second time is :
To remain loyal to the kind of dishes that they are used to. People can be really choosy about the food they eat and since you dont know a specific family well, dont put new kind of dishes on the table. Once you get to know the family well , then you can experiment with different kinds of cuisine.

I believe she made a solid point, I have been through this as well .. I am a very choosy eater and I dont like to experiment with food much .. I went to this Dinner invite by a newbie bride and she had made Prawn Pasta and Lamb chops .. There were many people so the menu was kept limited. Apparently many ladies didnt eat much. Later husband mentioned, it was the same story at the men’s side as well .. many didnt like seafood so they didnt even touch the pasta .. only ate the chops and salad ..

[AFayiz]

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Here i have a multicultural Muslim circle. My circle is not confined to Pakistanis only, and although I do have found this trend that women say they are not expert in cooking yet they are not allergic or bored of desi food. I am the one who is in love with cooking and always do experiments (even at dawats:blush:). In Ramazan like we use to ask each other about what you eat in sehri and I used to tell paratha with some curry etc, my friends used to get bewildered that how can I make paratha in morning and my expressions were like:hmmm: whats the big deal in this. Very few are fond of cooking in my circle. And tell you one funny thing I thought to organize a one dish party on eid and except 2 girls none of the friends agreed by saying that its difficult to bring dish we will just visit, some by quoting we will visit but dont expect a dish etc. Getting dejected by this I invited all of them at dinner and they all come without any excuse:naraz:. So what I got the idea was that they dont wanna cook. And let me tell you one more thing that with Pakistanis this one dish is very and so hats off to all Pakistanis here, I have multicultural friends due to my husband’s friendship with masjid people. I dont know why but one of my friend liked idea of one dish afterwards and arranged at her place after eid but she was saying she was embarrased to ask everyone for a dish:confused:, I dont know why this idea is not lauded among the other nationalities. We Pakistanis love one dishes

[akmoti]

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it depends on people too i guess…some dont like to cook yet they cook brilliant food or some just jaan chhura n never give much attention to food…

i agree many people dont like seafood or non-spicy food or veggies so menu for them should be very simple…
but i think its annoying to not eat what host has cooked for dawat…even if i dont like the food at a dawat i eat it!..

[AFayiz]

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im not flexible with my taste and would never eat anything that i dont like, but thats only with desserts, in namkeen pakwan i like almost everything else a whole fish

[polished_gems]

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No one is this adventurous when it comes to the newbie brides I have met, their Italian food is desified as well they make chicken tikka lasagna.

In our situation it may even be the opposite the American raised chefs are known to present the different cuisines…&
Thanks for sharing akmoti that actually sounds yummy…

[Muzna]

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how about the “continental cooks” that make “steak dinner” but marinate the steak with ginger, garlic, paprika etc.?

ugh!
someone tell them that this is not how “steak” is done!!!

[Umer]

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@Muzna

how about the “continental cooks” that make “steak dinner” but marinate the steak with ginger, garlic, paprika etc.?

ugh!
someone tell them that this is not how “steak” is done!!!

I know. But it tastes so much better that way (minus the garlic).

[SaeedinPakistan]

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You can cook whatever you want, as long as it has meat in it I’ll eat it.

[redvelvet]

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I don’t know if anyone else is like this as well…BUT…at a desi gathering I actually feel more drawn to the non-desi dishes because it’s something different in terms of seasonings/flavors/texture. I say bring it on!

[polished_gems]

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^Yeah I feel the same way, I get more impressed drawn to something non-traditional desi.