One dish wedding rule is stupid

[MM]

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Exactly. Not everyone can afford to comply with the unrealistic requests from the other side.

I’m glad this rule applies to everyone, not just one economic class. :k:

[TLK]

Only if we can turn our wedding dinner setups from buffet to banquet. Waiting staff serving you a dish at your table, exactly like they do in a restaurant. This will control the portion, hence the food wastage.

[Shamraz_Khan]

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@ajazali

Wasting your money is maybe your right but wasting food is not. Wasting food is as big crime as polluting the environment is.

Feeding your guests is wasting food? How so?

[Shamraz_Khan]

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@gudiaali

the rule is for the benefit of the common man. the weddings in Pakistan have become so extravagant that people expects even from an average middle class family to serve at least 4,5 dishes at the wedding, hold the function in a big banquet with all the fancy decor etc. many middle class families can’t afford to do all this but they have to as they are under the pressure of the society. With the law in place, they have a cover which they can use for not holding a lavish wedding.
As for the rich segment of the society, they can still serve as many dishes as they want as there are ways around it.

By that logic no one should be able to buy a new car or clothes. After all, your neighbors may not able to afford it & you don’t want to pressure them in buying unfordable things. The govt job is not to equalize everything where everyone must get something or no one gets anything by getting involved in private lives of citizens.

[ajazali]

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@Shamraz_Khan

Feeding your guests is wasting food? How so?

Lets say one dish, 100kg is enough to serve your guests. If you are going to make 7 dishes you certainly would not make 13kg of each. Instead you will make 70-80 kg of each making around 500kg food. Extra food is prepared to make sure guests can eat as much as they like even one food. So rest is wasted.

[gudiaali]

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@Shamraz_Khan

By that logic no one should be able to buy a new car or clothes. After all, your neighbors may not able to afford it & you don’t want to pressure them in buying unfordable things. The govt job is not to equalize everything where everyone must get something or no one gets anything by getting involved in private lives of citizens.

comparing buying new cars/clothes which yield certain amount of usability and last for good number of years, to number of food dishes served at weddings that lasts only few hours is baseless. two things are different.
Expensive weddings have started to begin the norm that is affecting the Pakistan society at large. your actions if started to affect the society, no longer remains private affair.
there are families having 3, 4 daughters and they have to organize extravagant wedding functions of the first daughter even by borrowing money, because they say that if they don’t then their other daughters won’'t get good proposals as people will perceive them as financially unstable or not from “Khate Pete” gharana. And like it or not, lot of folks in Pakistan gives utmost weight to the financial strength of the girl’s family when going for rishtas.
When you have a ban like this, it does give some relief to the poor parents who can use this as a shield to keep their Bharam.
Also, this does not only restricts to girl’s family, lot of guys families get under pressure if the bride’s family do an expensive function, then the guys family is also expected to throw a lavish valima function and if they don’t then people would start talking.

[Thornewood9]

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Didn’t know about this rule but seems like a good one. And anyways the prophet pbuh said “The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are occured”.
There is barkat and Allah’s blessing in simplicity. If you have extra money feed the poor, it will be sadaqa for you and your marriage will inshallah have a good start. Allah knows best.

[StrangeOne]

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Best thing the pml-n govt ever did. This BS posturing over who put what on the menu needs to stop (because dekaway kay ilawa kuch nahin hai yeh dishes ki dramay baazi). After attending weddings in Lahore (where the law has been implemented for ages) I went to a wedding in Islamabad and people were turning up at midnight and there were 15 sweet dishes. I have never seen so many people turn up their noses at such an extravagant display. I promise you no one is going to go home hungry even with two dishes. Lahoris are now well trained to find stuff like that disgusting rather than impressive so it’s possible to change a nation’s mentality.

A neighbour of mine had a son marry into the Sharif family and we got randomly invited to all the events. They didn’t have more than two dishes either.

[Qabil]

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@Southie

**How many dishes were served at the CM’s wedding. **The public shoukd monitor all marriages in his family in the past present and future.

Out of CM’s five weddings, Which one are you exactly asking about?

[Southie]

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@Qabil

Out of CM’s five weddings, Which one are you exactly asking about?

I would like a chart showing dish distribution function (DDF) in normal and log scale.

[Qabil]

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@Southie

I would like a chart showing dish distribution function (DDF) in normal and log scale.

I am afraid I don’t have access to this information. Let us wait for the release of “My feudal lord”, volume 2.

[Southie]

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Ok. Maybe Vol. 1 may have some pertinent information?

[emke]

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@ajazali

Lets say one dish, 100kg is enough to serve your guests. If you are going to make 7 dishes you certainly would not make 13kg of each. Instead you will make 70-80 kg of each making around 500kg food. Extra food is prepared to make sure guests can eat as much as they like even one food. So rest is wasted.

It doesn’t get wasted. Poor people get fed with this extra food plus the remaining food is distributed amongst relatives, neighbours, masis etc after coming home. And a small portion of it is kept home so groom’s/bride’s side can feed themselves. Extra food is always good. Whenever some guests come to your place, you make all the things bit extra. Better over than under man. Food just don’t get wasted in Pakistan, trust me, you will always get so many poor people whom you can feed that food.

The only form of wastage I have come across in shadis is when some guests make mountains of biryani, naans, salans etc in their plates, then aren’t able to finish that all, hence food gets wasted. And this happens in majority of weddings whether you are serving hundred dishes or just one.
All we need to do is educate ourselves & make people aware that food shouldn’t be wasted. Simple!

And people having 100 dishes, 1000+ dishes or just one dish on their wedding day is not anyone’s business.

[Qabil]

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@Southie

Ok. Maybe Vol. 1 may have some pertinent information?

No its totally irrelevant to the matter in hand. But volume 2, if ever it gets published, will hopefully be helpful.

[Pisiform]

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I went to a wedding once. They had one dish thing at the time - biryani. But they were so kanjoos that they ran out of biryani even. My mom had to make something for me when I got back home because I couldn’t freakin fight for food in the crowd or even if I try I would lose. And no they were not poor.

[Sheeda_Pistol_1]

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Hopefully someone will get it right one day and make a similar rule regarding less lavish or minimal dowry as well

[Southie]

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@Qabil

No its totally irrelevant to the matter in hand. But volume 2, if ever it gets published, will hopefully be helpful.

Are preprints available for “consumption”. Or are we allowed only one preprint per query

[Lusi]

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Mubarak app ko! How come your didn’t share your sherwani selection process in the wedding forum?

@Shamraz_Khan

@SID_NY haha that day was long while back.

[ajazali]

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@emke

It doesn’t get wasted. Poor people get fed with this extra food plus the remaining food is distributed amongst relatives, neighbours, masis etc after coming home. And a small portion of it is kept home so groom’s/bride’s side can feed themselves. Extra food is always good. Whenever some guests come to your place, you make all the things bit extra. Better over than under man. Food just don’t get wasted in Pakistan, trust me, you will always get so many poor people whom you can feed that food.

The only form of wastage I have come across in shadis is when some guests make mountains of biryani, naans, salans etc in their plates, then aren’t able to finish that all, hence food gets wasted. And this happens in majority of weddings whether you are serving hundred dishes or just one.
All we need to do is educate ourselves & make people aware that food shouldn’t be wasted. Simple!

And people having 100 dishes, 1000+ dishes or just one dish on their wedding day is not anyone’s business.

This is not optimal use of food. Sending food to those people who are not relying on you is kind of wasting food. Actually you are sending food to people who may like that food but they actually dont need it. Even beggars ask for money instead of food.

[emke]

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@ajazali

This is not optimal use of food. Sending food to those people who are not relying on you is kind of wasting food. Actually you are sending food to people who may like that food but they actually dont need it.** Even beggars ask for money instead of food**.

I would never give beggars money in my life, I would rather give them food because what they do with money is do “nasha” & buy “charas”.