CM...........out of curiosity.......and to quote **Nadz123 **from a previous thread...........is your friend low on the abuse at home?
Also,......when your friend asked you to help him out with his problem by posting this question on his behalf....did he have any idea that you were going to post his problem in such a "discreet" manner? You surely have succeeded in not making the identity obvious.
On the other hand.........your friend might want to consider that impressions are not only created in person.........but also on Internet forums. And that sometimes people can "get carried away" and not always be aware of the image that they're portraying. This can potentially deter princess both online and offline. Besides this, your friend most likely already knows the Islamic recommendations to control impure thoughts (fasting, namaz, dua, diverting negative thoughts, lowering gaze, and marriage). If your friend is struggling that much...........then he should seriously consider the involvement of a matchmaker and his parents in finding him a match. If the impure thoughts are that overwhelming for him.....that he can't wait too long.......perhaps he should consider arranged marriage. Of course....he would still get to know the girl before agreeing to marry her so it won't be "arranged" in the literal sense.
So a friend of mine has this rather odd issue. He is an extremely shareef guy and all his friends are shareef but he can't find himself a shareef girl to get married to. He has dated a few girls but they weren't shareed enough and of course he has tried the internet. But then again it wasn't getting to the level of excitment for him. No sparks or explosions.
But there is another issue for him. He - as previously stated - is a shareef guy but considering his age and desire to get married, he is having rather impure thoughts. Thoughts related to explosions and such and I am not sure what to do to help him out.
He of course has used the internet route to find a suitable mate, even posting his bio-data for a potential princess. Being that he comes from a true Pakistani family and espouses similar cultural values. Thus finding a princess is rather hard to do.
But what I need help with - for my friend of course - is what should advise should I offer him on controlling these impure thoughts and how should I aid him in finding a rather shareef girl so that he doesn't have these impure thoughts.** Being that he is such a shareef guy he won't come to me directly to ask for this advice**. Thus I am posting on his behalf. Being that I am such a good friend. Oh yes I am shareef too.
CM, From your above comment quotes high-lighted in bold, we see that your friend never even asked you for help, but as you are such a good friend, you have devoted a whole thread to him and have done it also so discreetly.
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We wonder how delighted your friend would be seeing this thread.
CM, on a more serious note, what I don't understand is, how can he control himself? And as long as he's not jumping on each girl that comes by, what will he achieve by controlling himself?
And as far as finding the girl of his dreams, well thats all luck. Its not like shareef girls come in a package. He's got to put himself out there and leave the rest to ALLAH. Its really not like finding a needle in a haystack, there are more then enough shareef girls, who want a shareef guy.
I'm not sure where he's from but incase he's from the US, he should try ICNA/ISNA matrimonials.
CM, are you trying to help your 'friend' or tarnish his reputation?
since you havnt exactly kept his identity discreet have you.
And is he really your friend who u r so concerned about or just another male guppie on gupshup.
I Agree. CM, if YOU really do think of him as a friend.........then shouldn't you have been more discreet in your attempt to "help" out your "friend" ?
So a friend of mine has this rather odd issue. He is an extremely shareef guy and all his friends are shareef but he can't find himself a shareef girl to get married to. He has dated a few girls but they weren't shareed enough and of course he has tried the internet. But then again it wasn't getting to the level of excitment for him. No sparks or explosions.
But there is another issue for him. He - as previously stated - is a shareef guy but considering his age and desire to get married, he is having rather impure thoughts. Thoughts related to explosions and such and I am not sure what to do to help him out.
He of course has used the internet route to find a suitable mate, even posting his bio-data for a potential princess. Being that he comes from a true Pakistani family and espouses similar cultural values. Thus finding a princess is rather hard to do.
But what I need help with - for my friend of course - is what should advise should I offer him on controlling these impure thoughts and how should I aid him in finding a rather shareef girl so that he doesn't have these impure thoughts. Being that he is such a shareef guy he won't come to me directly to ask for this advice. Thus I am posting on his behalf. Being that I am such a good friend. Oh yes I am shareef too.
Only read the BOLD RED LINES in one go....i am still wondering! :D
What is your criteria of SHAREEF ? What makes you think that your friend is SHAREEF and that the girls that he is finding are not SHAREEF ? Does he has some sort of machine for measuring SHAREEFNESS of any girl or of himself ???
^ I have a feeling 'CM' and 'YE-BOII' are the same person.
'Jaanwer' too looks like a close mate of CM.
Redvelvet, you the implied the 'friends' extreme approach in finding his princess would be off-putting to the opposite sex.
Dude has Over 2000 views on his thread, that seem to point otherwise?
Redvelvet, you the implied the 'friends' extreme approach in finding his princess would be off-putting to the opposite sex.
Dude has Over 2000 views on his thread, that seem to point otherwise?
I was not making a specific implication (as you so assumed) about the approach of finding a princess. Rather I was speaking in a general way about how one's conduct on a public forum does create certain impressions.....as is the case in personal interactions........and that this can play a role in attracting or repelling individuals. I used the word "princess" because it was used ever so discreetly by the poster himself.
Over-the-top reality shows often have high viewer ratings (more than 2000) because intense/extreme/out-of-the-ordinary behavior can capture the viewers attentions and boost viewer ratings. I'm not implying that this was the case with the princess search. I'm only addressing your generalized assumption that off-putting behavior does not increase viewer ratings.
^ Well, how do you know all of those 2000+ viewers are taking it as comedy-entertainment like yourself.
-Too look how many girls have shown his thread genuine interest, I have a feeling dude might have attracted more chicks than he can handle.
ofcourse who woudnt like to be princess
^ Well, how do you know all of those 2000+ viewers are taking it as comedy-entertainment like yourself.
I never said that I was taking the thread as comedy-entertainment. I was speaking in a general sense. Also, how do you know that ALL the viewers are genuinely interested in becoming a princess? Some of those viewers might not even be GS members. Some of the viewers might be male. Some of the viewers might be married females. Some of the female viewers.......like myself......although not interested for various reasons.........have conveyed our best wishes to the prince. Some viewers don't want to be a prince/nor princess and are merely curious about the outcome of the search.
*-Too look how many girls have shown his thread genuine interest,
ofcourse who woudnt like to be princess
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Some girls have provided the prince with potential rishta connections. And other girls have expressed interest in the thread by wishing him the best.........but are not interested in becoming a princess. Some of those girls might already be married. You're making an assumption. Not every girl would want to be a princess. Some girls already consider themselves to be a princess. And other girls would prefer to be the princess of another prince.
**wouldnt you like to be a princess.
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You seem persistent about the issue. I'm getting the feeling that YOU want to be princess more than anyone.
how quickly you noticed the nut … all the pun intended 
