Re: Okay, so what do i do?
I'd say you have good intentions, but in life, its important that we be seen as people who keep our word. That means that you should learn to keep promises....
I usually dont give advice here, but I can relate to what you're talking about because I used to be like you. A girl I was friends with in school was always inviting me to things, making plans to go out for coffee, hang out, etc....I would either cancel on her (for what I also thought were valid reasons) or show up incredibly late, something I now realize is very disrespectful. I can't tell you how much I regret that, because we made a plan to hang out and before we were able to follow up on it, she was admitted into the hospital for a routine test and passed away. I can't describe the guilt and sadness I felt upon her passing....she wasn't even a best friend or anything, but she was just such a genuinely good person and it made me realize what a bad person I was. And by that time, it was too late....the last thing I was ever able to do for her was her ghusl before burial. If I had only known how short her life was meant to be, I would've not only taken advantage of every time she invited me, but initiated more get-togethers myself.
The only reason I'm telling you this story is God forbid, if you were put in my situation at that time, I don't think saying "Oh well, she used to do the same thing to me several years ago" would make you feel better. Dont think of it as a thing between you and her, but something you need to work on to improve all of your relationships....forgiving (and truly meaning it, I don't think you've truly forgiven her if you feel like bringing up the past) and learning to keep your word unless the situation is dire.