Okay, so what do i do?

[Sara516]

@redvelvet

^ You say that you LIKE having her in your life and that you’ve FORGIVEN past mistakes and have MOVED on from them. That being said, don’t bring up all that went wrong in the past. It takes TWO people to make a relationship and sometimes WE OURSELVES may not realize the small ways that we have offended our friends/family in the past. If you’ve truly forgiven, then let it go and instead concentrate on making the relationship stronger.

**You’re right. That’s why I never have brought it up to her, because I feel its my problem, that i need to get over…not hers, that i should tell her. **

@PSquared

Try to look at people with fresh eyes.

Thats a good way to look at it.

@soni27

it seems like u dont need her in u r life..let her go instead of holding on to her nad u keep pissing her off..even though u might do it uniintentionally...

thats a possibility that i may not be aware of…

@Mamaof3

When you make a committment to go somewhere, this means that you expect to go and that you are expected to be there. To cancel at the last moment by saying “personal reasons” isnt really good enough. Saying “I broke my arm and was in the emergency room” is valid.

“Personal reasons” can be anything and is typically taken as something like I need a manicure and thats more important than hanging out with you.

If you truly want this gal in your life, you owe more of an explanation when you break your committment to her - more especially since you’ve done it more than once. And you need to stop making committments that you may not be able to keep.

Think about it…if these committments that you broke were with your husband’s mother or your own mother or your boss at work…would you still have broken them? And would you have been able to get away with the “personal reasons” excuse?

Thing is–if i’m close enough to the person, I can explain the personal reasons and hope that they will understand But now that I think about it, I’m pretty punctual and reliable with almost all of my friends, except for her i had to cancel on.

So I did explain to her those personal reasons and we kinda cleared things up. So I think we’re okay now (fingers crossed)