BINGO!
There are things that I do (i.e. if there’s nothing to talk about, I’ll stay quiet, if someone is doing something wrong, instead of providing blind support, I’ll point out the faults in family members) and they don’t like when I do that. They would rather keep talking about random stuff, even repetitive stuff, when there’s nothing to talk about and it becomes an issue of “tum tou hamesha doosron ki side letey ho” 
Aisha are you talking about physical appearance or habits etc.?