Re: observed this behaviour?
Hmmm, I haven't seen this happening a lot......but I do know that it can happen.
I have seen situations where you are friends with someone who does not respect you.....and maybe that person tells you to **avoid **a particular individual whom he/she badmouths.
Eventually, you get to the point where you're just tired of that person disrespecting you......and you notice that the individual they badmouth and tell you to avoid..........has never said anything nasty about them and is actually a very nice person. So, you start to get to know the "enemy"........and find out that they are a MUCH nicer person than your so-called "friend" who is consistently inconsiderate. The tables turn. It's like a form of "what goes around comes around." The so-called disrespectful friend tried to ruin the "enemy's" reputation by telling others bad things about the enemy. Meanwhile the enemy has no idea that his/her reputation is being destroyed and this is especially unfair if the enemy is not saying bad things about the "friend." So, Allah teaches the disrespectful friend a lesson. How? Allah exposes the "friend's" character to others........and brings you to closer to understanding the "enemy".....this clears the "enemy's" reputation. And before you know it........the "friend" finds themselves in an almost "friendless" situation.
I've also seen situations where you might not become "best friends" with the enemy of your "friend". But you begin to realize that your "friend" can't even manage basic respect and is full of it. So, when you decide to distance yourself from this "friend".......you reflect over the comments he/she made about the "enemy". And while you might not become friends of the enemy, you do realize that there's a possibility your friend was exaggerating. Because you begin to realize........that the "friend" disrespects many people......and you kind of can't blame the "enemy" for wanting to stay away from that person as well. Because.....now....even you don't want to hang around. Does that make sense? It sounds confusing, lol.