Re: No interest in making DUA.
Sister redvelvet
From my learning in this matter - it has become clear that anything that befalls us - it is always for one of two things:
- To increase our ranks
- To shake us and put us back on the right path
So both of these are good … and nothing happens as punishment in this life …
It is how we react to these things that make such things a fitnah for us … we can choose to interpret these things through the prism of our expectations …
So if something happens according to my expectations - I have a tendency of calling it good, or saying that Allah (SWT) fulfilled my wish or saying that this is a gift, or result of my hard work, etc … and if something happens against my expectations then I may have a tendency to say this is bad, what have I done wrong, etc …
In reality we should react only in that way that makes us closer to Allah (SWT) … so if our expectations are met, then we should react by shukr in Allah (SWT), if they are not met, then we do sabr in Allah (SWT) … and may be do supplications for getting sabr and tawfiq and understanding in these matters … we should ultimately be able to see hardships as gifts - being given to those who are closest to Allah (SWT) - for a surety those who are closest to Allah (SWT) are tested the most …
So in this understanding we should have a stage by stage du’a mechanism …
- Ask whatever you desire
- If fulfilled - do shukr
- If not fulfilled ask again for it and ask for strength to cope with the opposite result
- If fear of not getting and that resulting in leaving Allah (SWT) - then tell yourself - by not asking Allah (SWT) in the first place is still leaving Him, so at least by asking Him first you have done something that has brought you closer to Him …
Don’t be afraid of adverse consequences so much that it results in inaction of something that you wanted to do that was good … Get a good thought and do it … delaying a good thought will enable Shaitan to whisper and give us second thoughts …