Nikkah without Rukhsati

Re: Nikkah without Rukhsati

what date would count as ur wedding anniversary? a few weeks ago it was my friend's 1st wedding anniversary and she invited us all out for dinner. her rukhsati was a while after the nikah n she turned n said to me im always confused about which date my anniversary should be on. should it be on the date u get married or the date u 'officially' leave with ur husband thus beginning married life?

personally i dnt agree with the rukhsati after the nikah. the nikah is the main thing n i dont see the point of doing baraat/rukhsati function n getting all decked up when the main thing has already happend