Re: Nikkah without Rukhsati
i agree with you guys totally. nikkah should be on the day of ur wedding with the rukhsati . but in my case im going to have my nikkah probably almst a year before my rukhsati :(
couple of reasons...my mbbs ends in feb 2011 n m in lahore ..and my hubby-to-be is doin his specialisation in UK..n is settled there.. so i cant go there midway b/w my studies.
secondly my in laws want my papers n the immigration process to be completed before my rukhsati. n my parents want that too. they dont want me to be stuck here in pakistan alone.
but to think of additional responsibilities that come wid nikkah its quite difficult ...u juggle b/w 2 families haina ? since ur officially the 'bahu' at ur in laws .. and yet still livin at ur parents' place..
on the other hand, engagement is totally un-islamic..therez no concept of meetin, gettin to know each other thru intimate meetings/talks/going out... and esp this ring exchanging in islam...with the nikkah..at least u KNOW that this guy is your mehram ..and you r not doing anything wrong..
while rukhsati is totally cultural. parents have to make sure their daughter is safely 'packaged' lol thts wot i called it to the susraal..before anything ALARMING happens :P it is a big responsibility ..so there has to be an announced rukhsati in our culture...even if nikkah has been done ..and the girl has to stay at her parent's place for some reasons
weird hai yaarrr :p
what are your views on this ppl ??