Croquet, can you tell me what made you move back? What sort of experience have you had so far? did you move as a bachelor or married?
i moved back to get married so didnt stay bachelor for long after moving back. though right now i am again in australia but this is on temporary basis. (some work my husband has to do for a year or two) . i moved as a bachelor and then got married over there.i just wanted to bring up my children in pakistan i guess. or atleast their early years because i think that is the time when identities are being built and values are being ingrained. Financial concerns are huge for some families .Its sort of an off again on again thing for those, i know one family who has tried moving back 4 times. Most of the people in community just call them foolish but i see that their children donot feel like an aliens in pakistan.
Anyhow it very much depends on your individual situation and family. if you are a guy and unmarried much easier (unless you have other responsibilities) to give it a try. Once again bear in mind there are going to be financial issues if you donot come from a wealthy family and donot have other incomes other than your own.Jobs are flighty due to country's situation.if that is the situation i'd say get married here, save up lot more, own some property in pakistan as back up and by the time you have children you will be set to give it a try. (InshAllah the war mania might be reduced along time) I read you said that your wife to be is excited about moving, was she brought up in pak? If no ,bear in mind sometimes people chagne their opinions so may be one of you changes their perspective. Also for women its harder to make the leap, since women feel more restricted and concerned for their safety there.
so you have to keep in mind that money matters are going to haunt you around for a while, have a strategy ready to combat them. I moved in with my husband so we decided independantly and we didnt have anyother responsibilities. That is why it wasnt very difficult for us. Some people are doing an excellent job of raising children in different societies but i often felt children to an extent were missing out and mostly grew up quite indifferent to pakistan. So i wanted my children to be able to have the same life that i did while i grew up in pakistan. My husband was also born bred pakistani so we had minor expectations.
As for the hybrid approach. I guess some people move back and forth. Some have working vocation out of pakistan but that takes toll on family since separation isnt good for them.