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I have already ased twice, I won;t ask another time okay. If you wanna change ur mind do it now, I do not insist :D
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Hasn't this thread derailed a bit?
Mod?
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Ah the traditional MIL vs. DIL story. Its a total power struggle. I'll probably be subject to the temptations myself, I can already see it.
Most of the daughter-in-laws that I see that are happy are those that not only dont live with their in-laws but also have some sort of career or hobby that keeps them busy and their minds off of idle issues.
Like I said in the other thread. Snide comments will always be made by desi in-laws. Often even by edumacated laug. The idea always is "my kids are the best and they are chand kay tukrays and you o daughter-in-law need to bust your behind to match up" and from the girl its always "I'll be damned before I let that old budhi get in the way".
Just get your mind off these thoughts. And try to not let this tradition carry on when you become a mother-in-law. At some point this damn domino effect should stop.
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PCG, you've hit the nails on the heads.
I have yet to meet a MIL that is completely happy with their son's choices.....or even their own choices for their pyaray sons, for that matter.
And the most troublesome relationships that I have witnessed are those where they are either co-habitating or both are idle at home. Good advice.
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^ actually... my mums really happy with my bros choice :) and i doubt i see that changing
i see mostly, mothers of daughters disliknig their daughter's choice.. very funny
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You know a good example of a daugher in-law? Well, in most cases I've seen.
You know the character of "Deborah" er "Debra" on Everybody Loves Raymond. When her MIL interferes I think she handles the situation really well. Key is that if you are not satisfied with something and it really annoys you and you know its obstructing your family life, then speak up about it.
In a calm fashion.
Well Deborah manages to do this most of the time. She has lost her temper from time to time, but overall, she's pretty damn good.
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i don’t even know my laws are gonna be mosnter or not 
i hope not i don’t want any night mare 
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ha ha
thats kewl dude .. u got to see all thoz b!tch fights every single day .. FUN STUFF !!
hey man i know PCG can whack it lol i can 45 on pcg for win this battle , standin as any of the characters :D
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LOL this should become a quote. Well said indeed.
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FF chutney kay taur pe hum bhi hazir haiN:blush:
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there have been so many in-laws bashing threads on this board, usually by girls. what if the situation was the other way around? what if the girl's family was doing something to piss of her husband like interfering in their lives or having too much expectations from them? would the girl stand up for her husband and try to get her parents to back off (a bit)? how would or how should she handle their own parents?
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THe thing is....usually the girls' parents don't haev much of an interference (IMO) coz "she's not really theirs, she belongs to her in laws", according to waht my mother and others have told me. And plus, guys don't usually live with thier in laws.. ti's not expected of them to...
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off topic - my husband would live with my mother in a second if she would have us there. They adore each other, it’s quite sickening 
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I don't know...I think things are changing...here anyway. I know of a few couples that got divorced because of the parents' interference (in some cases it was the guy's in others it was the girl's) and I guess the problem was they couldn't tell their parents to back off without hurting them. Here are two cases that happened to two of my friends:
Case 1: the couple went to visit the girl's family and the girl's mother decided that her SIL should buy her daughter some clothes. She took her daughter shopping and made her get all sorts of expensive things using the SIL's credit card.
Case 2: the couple planned a trip by car to spend some time alone and when the girl's parents found out where they were going, they asked if they could come along because they had to get something important from there but they couldn't afford to go any other way. the couple agreed but they weren't happy about it because it was supposed to be a private trip for the two of them.
In both cases the girl's parents interfered. What should the girls have done in both cases?
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that’s cute!
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case 1; the dil is old enoughto decide whether this is a way of getting back at her hubby.
case 2: the girls parents should not interfere, coz they were going out as a ‘family’. this could have been there chance to move closer together, and with her parents being there, it would have made things uncomfortable.
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everything to in-laws has to be a comparison, the mil compares herself to her dil and the mil compares her daughter(s) to her dil, its sick.
if the dil is modern and from a better home, the in-laws r usually alway jelous
if the in-laws r more modern, then she has to hear about things that are supposed to be given in weddings, and the stuff she brought with her, if u know wot i mean
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sara, wait until ur about to get married and see how much of a daughter you are to your own parents.
Between, its hardly called interference. I think its just care and concern..
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mahru baji where is ur other thread the one with "husband’s behvior ??? 
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i dont think this will change. just like every other paki culture tradition ( gori superiority thing)
but micheal vartan is sooo cute.. and alias rocks!!