naturally grandparents are too attached to their grandkids. and let your son play with his dadi. and you can enjoy your life.
my nephew who was sick from birth grew up with my mum . SIL had operation and he was sick, so he slept with mum and now he misses his dadi more than his mum and SIL is so cool about it. she can leave him and go out with hubby, sleep whenever she likes and even started collage as well.
now he only sleeps with his mum at night and stays with Dadi whole day.
Hmmm I don't see why its a big deal to let your son sleep in your MIL's room. That'll give you and your husband some private time, and also occupy your MIL so she is not peeking in to your room. I guess since your MIL was obviously once married herself, she should not walk into a married couple's room w/o knocking! it could be embarrasing for all parties!
Do you have any relatives who can talk to her like a sister or something? But if not I'd say put her on babysitting duty while you and your husband enjoy a date night.
true u are right …ii do let my son be with its dadi alots but when i
tell her to look after him while i wana sleep she start complaining and instead of she wanting me to go to sleep she would give me a list of house work to do at 6 am in the morning while she play with my son i rather prefer to be like a good mom and look after my son rather than being a maid of the house doing the
the list of house work she wants me to do so i keep my son in my room till my husband dont wake up for work and i play with him
and my mother in law also complains about getting tired looking after my son and she would walk in my bedroom with my son saying he is hungry and stuff
i need some kinda privacy with my husband and my son sometimes but she dont let me have it
and u are right if it was my mom i would have leave my son and let her play with
my son for hours and hours coz i know my mom would let me spend some time with my husband and she will not distrub me and my husband until its very urgent but my mother in law would just interfer in my bedroom just to see wot is going on in my bedroom which is way soo much annoying
naturally grandparents are too attached to their grandkids. and let your son play with his dadi. and you can enjoy your life.
my nephew who was sick from birth grew up with my mum . SIL had operation and he was sick, so he slept with mum and now he misses his dadi more than his mum and SIL is so cool about it. she can leave him and go out with hubby, sleep whenever she likes and even started collage as well.
now he only sleeps with his mum at night and stays with Dadi whole day.
let your son have strong bond with dadi.
i would if my mother in law would let me have my own life
Hmmm I don't see why its a big deal to let your son sleep in your MIL's room. That'll give you and your husband some private time, and also occupy your MIL so she is not peeking in to your room. I guess since your MIL was obviously once married herself, she should not walk into a married couple's room w/o knocking! it could be embarrasing for all parties!
Do you have any relatives who can talk to her like a sister or something? But if not I'd say put her on babysitting duty while you and your husband enjoy a date night.
lol u dont understand when my son is with her she inferter in my bedroom alots walking in and saying he is hungry feed him change his nappy and stuff and giving me a list of house work to do
Although I agree with some of people's points here, I can't help but notice that some of you are almost blaming this poor soul for being irritated by her mother in law! C'mon, let's face it, more often than not, the most irritating person you'll meet in your life, that you'll actually have to put up with, will likely be your mother in law. So give the poor chick a break!
Now, about you guys trying to compare her feelings for the MIL to her feelings for her actual mother --- well that's just plain bizarre..! Besides the few blessed girls here with great MILS, most MILs are intolerable! So the thought that some of you are questioning her affection for her MIL just makes you people sound ill-informed.
And as far as her issue goes, it's quite simple actually. She needs privacy with her husband and child and her MIL refuses to give it. Any person in this situation would naturally be annoyed. So if she is sharing her frustration with us and seeking advice, we should help her. Mahanoor, just take it a day at a time and try and reason with her if you can. Speak with your husband if you feel he is the type who would listen. A lot of people have given you some excellent advice, take it. There are several ways to put locks like they have mentioned -- try them out.
Remember, she might not be your mother and she might be unreasonable, but at the end of the day, she is going to be living in your house. So unless you plan on throwing her out, find some mature ways to deal with her so that all of you can live together as one family.
Although I agree with some of people's points here, I can't help but notice that some of you are almost blaming this poor soul for being irritated by her mother in law! C'mon, let's face it, more often than not, the most irritating person you'll meet in your life, that you'll actually have to put up with, will likely be your mother in law. So give the poor chick a break!
Now, about you guys trying to compare her feelings for the MIL to her feelings for her actual mother --- well that's just plain bizarre..! Besides the few blessed girls here with great MILS, most MILs are intolerable! So the thought that some of you are questioning her affection for her MIL just makes you people sound ill-informed.
And as far as her issue goes, it's quite simple actually. She needs privacy with her husband and child and her MIL refuses to give it. Any person in this situation would naturally be annoyed. So if she is sharing her frustration with us and seeking advice, we should help her. Mahanoor, just take it a day at a time and try and reason with her if you can. Speak with your husband if you feel he is the type who would listen. A lot of people have given you some excellent advice, take it. There are several ways to put locks like they have mentioned -- try them out.
Remember, she might not be your mother and she might be unreasonable, but at the end of the day, she is going to be living in your house. So unless you plan on throwing her out, find some mature ways to deal with her so that all of you can live together as one family.
Good luck! :)
thanks alots for understanding me tht was so nice of u
why dont we have understandable people like u in this world trust me
life would have been so good and easy and people would wana live more in this world
YourPresident, we were responding to the situation as she described it. But now we know there is more to the story.
mahanoor: a while back there was a thread by a girl as how her cousin sister's MIL did similiar things, like walk into her bedroom unannounced etc. I remember ppl had some very good tips in there :D
BUT i feel that your first stop should be your husband. Tell him how uncomfortable this all makes you and ask him to talk to his mother nicely. And if that doesnt work, then desperate times shall call for more desperate measures. I agree your MIL shouldnt just barge in the room. Does she think that you are just playing with your son and not in bed with your husband?
And if your MIL has a list of housework to do, cant you nicely say, oh MIL, abhi to sara din para hai, aram say nashtay kay baad shuroo kartay hain. Its ridiculous to be starting work like a slave at 6 am. I would be annoyed too.
Now, about you guys trying to compare her feelings for the MIL to her feelings for her actual mother --- well that's just plain bizarre..! Besides the few blessed girls here with great MILS, most MILs are intolerable! So the thought that some of you are questioning her affection for her MIL just makes you people sound ill-informed.
YourPresident, we were responding to the situation as she described it. But now we know there is more to the story.
mahanoor: a while back there was a thread by a girl as how her cousin sister's MIL did similiar things, like walk into her bedroom unannounced etc. I remember ppl had some very good tips in there :D
BUT i feel that your first stop should be your husband. Tell him how uncomfortable this all makes you and ask him to talk to his mother nicely. And if that doesnt work, then desperate times shall call for more desperate measures. I agree your MIL shouldnt just barge in the room. Does she think that you are just playing with your son and not in bed with your husband?
And if your MIL has a list of housework to do, cant you nicely say, oh MIL, abhi to sara din para hai, aram say nashtay kay baad shuroo kartay hain. Its ridiculous to be starting work like a slave at 6 am. I would be annoyed too.
i did said to her i will do it laters when i wake up and she start complaining and complaining and start saying stuff to me and my mother tht she didnt taught not to say no to elder and blah blah
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mahanoor: a while back there was a thread by a girl as how her cousin sister's MIL did similiar things, like walk into her bedroom unannounced etc. I remember ppl had some very good tips in there :D
Oh ira, I remember that! That was the limit though! Haha.. remember when she walked in on them while they were in the middle of it and then proceeded to start talking to the son??? Damn..! :p
thanks alots for understanding me tht was so nice of u
why dont we have understandable people like u in this world trust me
life would have been so good and easy and people would wana live more in this world
Thank you mahanoor. Your words are very kind and are very appreciated :)
i did said to her i will do it laters when i wake up and she start complaining and complaining and start saying stuff to me and my mother tht she didnt taught not to say no to elder and blah blah
Time to stand up for yourself. So what if she says all that, its bcos the existing boundaries are shifting and this is her response in order to try to keep things under her control. U also live in the same house, now u have your own little one, so YOU need to take some CONTROL too.
Do NOT let this emotional blackmail thing get to you. If she complains hinting bad stuff about your mum, let her say it, if u stick to your guns it won't mean anything and SHE WILL GET USED to this new routine / responsibilities.
Respect MIL, allow her time with baby, BUT DON'T LET HER WALK ALL OVER U.
so she can’t get out!
why does the guy’s mother do this? This isnt the first time I have heard this…seriously it’s disturbing @ walking into the bedroom.