IN that case your entire argument is incorrect, how much one is concerned with looking good and taking care of themselves is not indicative of being shallow, only interested in hanging out with the powerful and rich, or not interested in feelings.
i dont know about men discussing open toe pumps, those men are cross dressers and not metro then. unless they are giving their wife advise, and then again there is nothing wrong with that. If more men gave advise to their significant others on what looks good and what does not we would be subject to less of the type of plucked chicken looking cartoons at desi events 
If someone is interested in health, they will try to get the spouse interested in it too, same goes with style/grooming, if someone feels it is important, they will emphasize it to their spouse as well, dont see any issue there unless it is controlling behavior, which has then more to do with who the person is, whether they want the wife dolled up all the time, covered up all the time or whatever. its a whole diff bag o chips.
