Men and Arrange Marriages~ Apprehensions.

[_Iraj]

Re: Men and Arrange Marriages~ Apprehensions.

@somegroovychick

great thread- its nice to hear the flip side of the story.

do guys feel the same pressure to get married and settle down by a certain age that girls do?

i know for me it started around 18 or 19, and **by the time i was 25 it was pretty much dying out **
i.e. i had been “given up” on

i got married last august at 28 and im personally extremely happy i waited until i was sure what i wanted from life and a life partner. but my hubs is white and ours was a “love marriage”… i have a feeling if i had still been single, there wouldn’t have been many desi options for me seeing as how 28 is “old”.

so how does this work for guys? are you mostly introduced to girls a couple of years younger than you/your age, or are you just introduced to super young girls, like late teens/early 20’s? what is prime marrying age for a guy?

:k: the best part was you found out the right person
no 28 is not old from desi option . it all depends on the ppl you interact with .

@Afro-Sheen

Ideal situation would be to meet your significant other on your own, and develop understanding, love…all it takes…and get married…and work at those things during marriage as well. But if one does find himself in an arranged situation, try to make the best of it if you can. Maybe after you have met person a few times and engaged, demand that the wedding be at least a year later, in which time you are able to talk to/hang out with/go out with our fiancee or potential fiancee…that way you have a better idea about the other person and they know about your views personality. And if it really isn’t any compatibility, you have time to back out…but for that you need understanding parents…

how do you get to know that who is your significant other .
if two persons have proposed you simultaneously
and both seem equally interested how do you get to know who the right person is ?
you reject both ?
or just find the third one - lol ?