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^ That wud be devastating, like any death wud be. Sometimes there is no answer. I just believe in fate (kismet).
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True, open and good communication, as well as general understanding are vital in these situations.
(thanks parissenoor and MutyaR)
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I personally was in a LDR of exactly the sort you described for a grand total of four years. And it was ..good while it lasted. But now Im in a relationship where the person in question is right here and comparing the two, I find this one more real.
People say it is hard to be in a LDR and that that takes more work and as such is worth it more. I tend to disagree as I have seen both. LDRs may appear to take more work/understanding/commitment but it is all a matter of perspective. If you think about it people tend to be more forgiving/understanding if the only mode of communication is limited (eg chat or phone) because there are a lot of other outside factors to consider when it comes to spending time together ( onlinity, access to a telephone, time zones etc)
But when it comes to physical interaction, the realness of that..well it cannot compare. These people who havent ever seen their significant other(people in online chat relationships) seriously have no idea of the amount of freedom and boost to self esteem you get to be completely and totally accepted with all your faults. The best part about a close intimate relationship where you get to meet regularly off and on is that the familiarity completely allays any doubts you may have abt the other and abt your acceptance(what if he/she doesnt like my voice, what if he/she doesnt like the way I walk? )((okay those were horrible examples but my point is that they are able to see you in any and every aspect this way))
I've been my very best Ive been my very worst. I've pigged out and I've starved myself. I've laughed the hardest, I've cried like mad. I've done it all with this new relationship and he's seen it all. The relationship took work..every step of the way. But the most vivid difference I found was that I could see us evolving. growing..and comparing the two I found us to be way more real.
And that is what matters the most I guess..that its real.
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Demesne i agree with u somewot...i think that was the difference btwn the two LDR's i had also. The one i'm in now, we were close in distance and spent everyday together for about 2 1/2 years, before he moved away. The other one, i never met, and it started from a distance so big difference...so yea sometimes it didn't feel as "real"....it helps if u know each other really well, before physical distances may come in the picture.
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:) Im glad to know that someone agrees with me.
I feel that its better to start off with everything on the table. Recently this present relationship, he was away for a month in the US and the only mode of communication was maybe a five minute call sometime during each day. But we survived that strnger than ever. No problems no hitches. Relationships take work..and the sooner everything is out there the better it is
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This one is dedicated to the older bro I never had. 
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demesne, thought i think your points are most valid, i can not agree with you because of my different perspective about a relationship...i think if two person love each other enough, they'll deisre marriage and life together, so as the proverb goes, when there is a will there is a way!! i mean i will not spend four years away from my net boyfriend!
i think long term relationaships are just a temporal part of a relationnship, either at the start, or in a middle due to some external material reasons...but no way i do believe in long term relationship as a normal way to be a couple...maybe that point of view is from my traditional thinking of "marriage instead of dating"....
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i guess you can not believe either in love marriage??
or you have a problem to trust people?
modern communication includes not only the net, with camera and microphone but also telephone with sms, faxes and letters! lol, the good old letter…yeah i know more about what’s going on in the life of some of my net friends than of my sister daily routine:confused: though she is only 20km from me…
i think you sum it up by saying you DON’T BELIEVE, love has to be believed to be real…it is like faith in god, if you don’t have it i can try all my best to convince…i’ll allways fail…so basically this thread will not convince you if you don’t believe
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Very well said. I agree.
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All jokes aside!
I would begin from what love is? Its a feeling between two souls with no conditions. When you love someoen and there are no conditions its such a beautiful feeling.
I think online things are really cool and can last forever. Think about it! if both sides are telling each other truth about who they are. Something inside of you will fall for them and things blossom from t here. You havent seen that person but you fell in love with them for who they are. You just love the way they think the way they behave. This shows a lot about the other person. Once you know them for sometime you can honestly tell if they are telling you turth or what.
When you fall in love with someone non virtually you know for sure there are some conditions there. That person attracts you physically. If you put that thing on side then what?
I dont know if i explained this well enough but i think more philisophically.
online things are so cool...
Chicago base- a love without any conditions is the most beautiful thing on earth.... someone to love you no matter what you say or do... its such a sweet and warm feeling...