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Neither is getting married a huge accomplishment nor are most 30 year olds single by choice. I don't see how a 20 odd year old can be financially stable enough to raise a family. I'd rather take my time and find the one I am sure I can spend the rest of my life with.
What this wise feller said.
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WHAT?
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Neither is getting married a huge accomplishment nor are most 30 year olds single by choice. I don't see how a 20 odd year old can be financially stable enough to raise a family. I'd rather take my time and find the one I am sure I can spend the rest of my life with.
Noodle said it right. I will be 29..and plan on getting married this or next year insha'allah. But to me stability is VERY important factor. It takes a lot to raise a family.
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Everyone is born with their individual destiny, it's wrong to compare your path with the others because you are different person hence there will be different options, consequences and your own way of dealing with them.
I strongly believe one should marry when they are mentally ready for it and now that will vary from person to person. Also, once you decide you are ready for marriage, it's not like you should go ahead and marry just about anybody that you come across. The right selection of your life partner is very important so might as well take your time but decide for good. There has to be a right balance like is required for everything in life, you shouldn't just sit around and wait for things to happen and at the same time sulking over it won't make it any easy of a process either.
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Relations are not like iPhone that you gotta have one if your friend have one. People should get into relationship when they feel they are ready for it because if they are not, it will ruin someone else's life.
I mashallah got married earlier than my cousins and friends because I was mentally ready for it. Things fall in place for me alhamdullah at the age of 25/26. Couple of my friends married even before me and couple married just couple of years ago. My best friend (and cousin) married just last year although we are same age because his circumstances were different than mine. So each case is different.
How will you feel if you "settle down" in life later than your friends, close friends or relatives who are your age or almost your age?
Do girls feel conscious if they are still unmarried at say 29, while most of their cousins and friends approx their age are married with a kid or two ?
Or if someone who used to go to school with you, now has finished his degree- two years or so before you.
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I'm probably going to be one of those who settle later than my friends and cousins. I'm the eldest girl in my family on both sides. I've two cousins (sisters) who have gotten engaged to my cousins (brothers) at the age of 20 and 22. I've 3 very close friends who are also married and have children. I'm not in a hurry to get married. If we talk about being ready, I've probably been mentally ready to marry since the age of 20, but there is not the WANT to get married yet. Of course, people do talk and it does also effect me like any other normal person, but going into depression mood because I'm single? I think not-
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Its all about the Blackberry fam! 
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You chug through it, like you chug through all the other BS that life throws at you.
We Pakistanis have set this arbitrary time cut off for mid-20's for marriage. Other cultures don't do this, and some others do. As long as you understand that you've got still a lot to live for even when unmarried, and you've got a lot to offer the world and enjoy from this world before you're rendered incapable, I think you're alright. Easier said than done.